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When the cameras leave and the mud dries, responders are still working. There is gear to decontaminate, reports to file, and a mind that does not quiet on command. After hurricanes, wildfires, floods, earthquakes, or winter storms, the crews who go first and leave last absorb stories, sights, and sounds that do not end with the incident. I have sat with firefighters who smell smoke in their sleep, public health nurses who cannot step into a grocery store because the generator hum sounds too much like the ICU they kept open through the night, lineworkers who shake when a gust hits a utility pole, and search teams who replay the same few minutes of radio silence. They do not need platitudes. They need a map. This piece is that map as I have come to draw it in the field and in the therapy room, focused on trauma therapy that fits the tempo and culture of natural disaster work, and on practical care that sustains resilience over a career. After the storm, what resilience really looks like Resilience is not the absence of distress. After a major incident, it is typical to have fragmented sleep, vivid dreams, irritability, and a flood of physical energy followed by exhaustion. For many, these settle within several weeks as the nervous system metabolizes the event and routines return. Others carry forward symptoms that do not fade, or they stack on top of years of prior calls. Among responders, rates of posttraumatic stress symptoms rise with proximity to death, injury, and moral dilemmas, and they change over time. In the first month after a disaster, clinically significant symptoms can be common, then fall as people recover, then recur at anniversaries or during new deployments. In some cohorts, persistent PTSD has been documented in ranges from about 10 to 20 percent, with higher numbers in those who experienced personal loss alongside duty. Depression, anxiety, substance misuse, and sleep disorders often travel with PTSD, which complicates the picture. Resilience in this context is the capacity to bend with stress, learn from it, and return, not always to baseline, but to a functional and meaningful path. It shows up in a medic who asks for a shift swap to make a therapy appointment, in a team that debriefs with candor rather than bravado, in a captain who models going home for a nap before paperwork. It is behavioral, relational, and trainable. The load responders actually carry Acute horrors grab attention, yet for disaster responders the cumulative load matters as much. Three types of stressors interact. First, critical incidents: arriving at a burned subdivision where addresses mean names, discovering fatalities in a shelter, losing a colleague. Second, chronic operational strain: 16 hour shifts, irregular meals, wearing the same damp gear for days, long drives back to a base far from family. Third, moral and bureaucratic injuries: being ordered to stand down while a neighborhood floods, rationing care in a field hospital, being attacked online for decisions made in a fog of uncertainty. A paramedic named Luis once told me what kept him up after a tornado was not the bodies. It was bypassing an elderly man waving for help because the triage was strict and the road was blocked, then learning the man died waiting. He followed policy. He did his job. The betrayal he felt was silent and corrosive. Therapy needs to treat the physiology of fear and the shrapnel of moral pain. How trauma settles into bodies and teams Trauma is not only a story in memory. It is also a pattern stored in muscles, hormones, and reflexes. The sympathetic nervous system primes for action. That is lifesaving on scene and disruptive at home. Hypervigilance makes sense when aftershocks are real, less so in a kitchen when a pan clangs. Sleep is the first casualty, appetite the second. Ruminative loops clamp concentration, and alcohol, benzodiazepines, or cannabis become common do-it-yourself regulators. Partners and kids feel the wake: short tempers, disengagement, or sudden emotion where once there was a steady presence. Teams carry this physiology together. A crew with three short fuses and one steady counselor can balance. A crew without a safety valve starts to make errors or avoid tough calls. When I study post-incident reports, I often see near misses in the second week of deployment, when reserves have thinned but the mission still runs hot. Part of trauma therapy for responders is getting ahead of this timeline with education, tactical rest plans, and peer support that is not performative. When normal recovery stalls In the first month after a disaster, acute stress reactions are expected. When nightmares persist, avoidance expands, irritability becomes rage, intrusive images intrude at work, or the body never downshifts even on days off, it is time to assess for PTSD and related conditions. PTSD therapy begins with a careful evaluation, but also a functional focus: is sleep restorative, are there panic episodes, is irritability impairing judgment on scene, are there reckless behaviors, is the person withdrawing? Timing matters. For some, especially those with a history of prior trauma, early intervention reduces later complications. For others, therapy in the first week is premature and feels like picking at a fresh scab. Good practice allows for watchful waiting with structured support, then triggers more focused trauma therapy if symptoms hold steady or worsen after a few weeks. What effective trauma therapy looks like for responders The best trauma therapy for disaster responders fits their work realities: variable schedules, exposure to new incidents while still processing old ones, privacy concerns in small departments, and often a culture that prizes stoicism. Over the years, five elements consistently improve outcomes. A clear, collaborative plan. Responders respond. They do better when therapy sets a shared goal, a timeframe, and measurable markers like sleep hours or frequency of intrusive images. Vague reassurance is not enough. Pacing and titration. Flooding people with exposure work too fast can worsen avoidance and dropouts. Equally, staying in skills training forever without addressing the trauma memory leaves the engine revving. The arc typically moves from stabilization skills to targeted processing to reintegration and relapse prevention. Involving family or partners when appropriate. Couples therapy is not an afterthought. The responder’s home is the daily context where symptoms show up. In my experience, a short course of targeted couples work alongside individual therapy reduces relapse and improves adherence. Coordination with the agency. With consent, limited communication with a trusted leader or peer support coordinator helps align modified duties, sleep-friendly shift assignments, and safety planning. Respect for identity. Many responders identify deeply with their role. Therapy that tries to dismantle that identity fails. Therapy that strengthens healthy parts of it, the mission focus, the service ethic, the team loyalty, tends to succeed. Modalities that work, and how to choose among them Evidence-based treatments matter, and real-world fit matters just as much. Here is how I guide choices with responders. EMDR therapy. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing has strong evidence for PTSD. It works by engaging bilateral stimulation while the person holds an image, belief, and bodily sensation in mind, facilitating adaptive memory reconsolidation. For responders, EMDR has practical advantages: it does not require detailed verbal description of the event, which can reduce shame or protect operational details, and sessions can be structured to target specific hotspots like the image of a specific face or sound. Contraindications include unstable dissociation or active substance intoxication. When I use EMDR with a firefighter, we often spend the first sessions building grounding techniques and a calm place practice, then we target the worst moment, then linked triggers like siren sounds. Reduction in SUDS, the subjective units of distress, often happens over 3 to 8 focused sessions for a single incident, though cumulative trauma may take longer. Exposure based PTSD therapy. Prolonged Exposure, PE, and Cognitive Processing Therapy, CPT, have decades of evidence. PE involves imaginal exposure to the trauma memory and in vivo exposure to avoided cues. It fits responders who value direct action and are willing to do homework. It requires schedule stability to complete. CPT focuses on shifting stuck beliefs, like I failed or I am not safe anywhere, through structured worksheets and challenging of cognitive distortions. Responders with strong moral injury often benefit from CPT’s work on meaning, responsibility, and guilt. In practice, I sometimes blend EMDR and CPT, targeting physiological distress with EMDR and then addressing beliefs with CPT. Somatic and skills focused therapies. Responders often carry arousal in their bodies like a clenched jaw they cannot release. Skills from Somatic Experiencing, breathwork, and mindfulness based approaches train downshift. These are not substitutes for trauma processing, yet they are essential tools. Autogenic training, box breathing, and brief grounding drills can be taught in 10 minute segments between shifts, then woven into a larger therapy plan. Medication as part of a plan. SSRIs and SNRIs have evidence for PTSD and comorbid depression. Prazosin can help nightmares. Stimulants and sedatives have risk when used to patch sleep and energy. Any medication plan in a responder should consider safety critical duties, side effects like delayed reaction time, and agency policies. An on call lineman on ladders at night needs a different pharmacologic plan than a planner in an EOC. Ketamine therapy. Intravenous or intranasal ketamine can rapidly reduce depressive symptoms and suicidal ideation, and there is emerging evidence for relief of PTSD symptoms in some patients. It is not a cure, and the effect may be transient without concurrent psychotherapy. For responders, it can offer a reset when the system is stuck, allowing entry into EMDR or CPT that felt impossible before. Screening is critical. A history of psychosis, unstable cardiovascular conditions, or uncontrolled hypertension are red flags. The setting matters too. Credible ketamine therapy occurs with medical oversight, vital sign monitoring, and a clear integration plan with a therapist who understands the responder’s job demands. I advise agencies to have written policies about duty status around ketamine sessions, typically off duty for at least 24 hours post infusion, sometimes longer depending on individual response. Group and peer elements. Group PTSD therapy and peer support groups create normalization and the language of us rather than me. They also risk uncontained reactivation if poorly facilitated. The best groups have a structure, ground rules, and a trained clinician or peer specialist who can redirect and close sessions safely. I have seen crews build micro rituals at the end of weekly groups, like a two minute silence or a shared phrase, that bookend the hard talk. Bringing partners into the room Many responders report that home is harder than work after a disaster. At work, the rules are clear. At home, the dishwasher is stacked wrong and a kid forgot a science project and the whine of a blender sounds like a helicopter. Couples therapy can lower the friction. Sessions focus on communication patterns, briefing and debriefing rituals, and simple agreements that protect sleep and recovery. In one family, we adopted a rule that 30 minutes after arrival home, there would be no problem solving, only a snack and a shower. In another, a code phrase meant I am flooded, give me 15 minutes. Crucially, couples therapy is not about fixing the responder. It is about aligning a two person team under acute and chronic stress. Sometimes the partner carries their own trauma from evacuating with children or managing insurance fights. Then a brief course of individual trauma therapy for the partner runs alongside couples work. On scene, between shifts: a brief field checklist In the field, elaborate routines do not hold. The following compact checklist has held up across hurricanes and wildfires. Hydration and protein first within an hour post shift, then caffeine cutoff times agreed upon by the team. A five minute body reset: stretch the hip flexors, roll the shoulders, three rounds of slow box breathing. A two minute verbal dump with a trusted peer, three facts and one feeling, then close with a forward looking plan. Light hygiene ritual before sleep, even if wipes and a toothbrush, to signal the body that the operational day ended. One protected connection touchpoint with family, a brief check in with a script that avoids graphic detail but conveys I am here and I am okay or I am struggling and I have support. These are not niceties. They directly reduce arousal peaks, improve sleep efficiency, and reinforce social bonds that buffer later symptoms. Leadership and peer teams: responsibilities that cannot be delegated Good leaders shape mental health outcomes. They do it with schedules, policy, and culture. After a major incident, I ask supervisors to do five concrete things. Set cadence. Publish a 14 day work rest rhythm as early as possible and enforce down days. Uncertainty feeds anxiety. Normalize care. Say out loud that therapy is expected after X exposure types and that modified duty is honorable. Protect privacy. Designate one confidential liaison for therapy coordination and make sure gossip has a cost. Equip peers. Train peer supporters in active listening, red flags, boundaries, and referral pathways, with a clinician on call. Track and learn. Use after action reviews to identify points where cumulative stress degraded performance, then adjust future staffing and support. Peer teams need clarity about scope. They are not therapists. They are the front line of noticing change, sharing lived strategies, and walking a colleague to the clinic when needed. They also need their own supervision and decompression, or they will burn out. Returning to scenes and triggers, deliberately Avoidance provides short term relief and long term problems. Part of PTSD therapy is planned, supported contact with triggers. With a wildfire engine crew, we once planned a noncritical drive through a recovered area months later, with prearranged exit options. Each person rated distress before, during, and after. Two reported a spike with the smell of wet ash. We paused, did grounding drills, and continued. The next week, the two reported fewer intrusive images. With an emergency manager who struggled with radio static, we built a sound exposure hierarchy, starting with a 10 second clip at low volume during a therapy session, then longer at home with a partner present, then at work with a colleague. Control and pacing made all the difference. Volunteers, rural crews, and the privacy problem In small towns, the responders and the survivors are the same people, which complicates care. The volunteer who pulled a neighbor from a flooded truck stands in line with that family at the only grocery store. Seeking therapy at the local clinic may not feel safe. Telehealth expands options, but bandwidth is spotty after storms and not everyone wants to be on a screen. For these communities, I help agencies develop regional or statewide clinician rosters, with explicit confidentiality agreements and flexible hours. We also train a trusted local peer who can host a private space with a hot spot for teletherapy. When travel is necessary for in person trauma therapy like EMDR, agencies can cover mileage and time, the same way they do for a specialized training. Doing so signals that mental health care is as mission critical as a SCBA fit test. Licensure, telehealth, and confidentiality Interstate deployments and telehealth create complexity. Clinicians need to be licensed where the responder is physically located at the time of service, with some exceptions under emergency compacts. Agencies should ask prospective providers about licensure scope, HIPAA compliant platforms, and crisis coverage. Responders deserve to know who will see their records, how billing works, and what disclosures are mandatory. The line on confidentiality in a duty bound profession is clear: therapists keep almost everything private, https://trentonvkae453.wordpress.com/2026/06/01/couples-therapy-for-sexual-intimacy-rekindling-connection/ with exceptions for imminent risk of harm to self or others, abuse reporting requirements, and orders from a court. Agency fit for duty evaluations are a separate process from therapy, with separate consent. Mixing them erodes trust. Building a sustainable care program An individual plan matters, and so does the system. Agencies that manage disaster response well often do three programmatic things. They screen wisely. Not everyone needs a diagnostic battery. After a significant incident, use brief validated tools, like the PCL 5 for PTSD symptoms and the PHQ 9 for depression, offered privately and voluntarily, paired with direct invitations to talk. Leaders can frame the screens as part of routine post incident health checks. They create stepped care pathways. Some responders will benefit from a psychoeducation session and skills training. Others need individual trauma therapy like EMDR therapy or PE. A subset will need medication, and a smaller subset might be candidates for ketamine therapy in a reputable setting. Build the ladder in advance, with MOUs with local and telehealth providers, then match people to the right rung quickly. They measure outcomes. Track time to first appointment, therapy completion rates, return to regular duty timelines, and self reported symptom reduction. Share de identified data with crews. When responders see that PTSD therapy led to a 50 percent drop in nightmares on average across the department, they are more likely to opt in. When you are both a responder and a neighbor After disasters, many responders also have personal losses. A fire chief whose own home burned may downplay that loss while holding town briefings. That is not resilience, that is suppression. In therapy, we name the dual roles. Sometimes we file two claims, one through workers comp for exposure during duty, and one through personal insurance for household trauma care. In couples therapy, the spouse may need a space to grieve their own fear while also being proud of the responder’s work. These dual tracks prevent resentment that often bursts a year later when the holidays arrive and the smoke smell is back in the wind. What success feels like Therapy success is not forgetting, it is remembering without drowning. A responder who could not drive past a certain street can now attend a community meeting in that school gym without scanning every exit. Nightmares come once a week, not every night, and they resolve faster. The partner notices that Sunday mornings feel normal again. The team sees fewer edge snaps at 3 a.m. The responder can tell the story of the decision they made on shift with sorrow and pride, not with a locked jaw and averted eyes. The timeline varies. A single incident often responds within a few months of weekly work. Complex trauma and moral injury take longer, sometimes the better part of a year, with plateaus and spurts. Slips happen under new stress. That is why part of the plan includes relapse prevention, a set of cues and actions that kick in when sleep drops or avoidance grows. A brief word on alcohol, sleep, and the traps responders know too well Alcohol knocks people out and ruins sleep architecture. Many responders know this and still reach for a nightcap after the third 16 hour day. I avoid moralizing. We look at data, sleep trackers if they use them, and run experiments: cut alcohol for seven days, compare the deep sleep metrics and daytime irritability. Often the person chooses better sleep. If not, we add supports. Sleep hygiene in a shelter or hotel is ugly. Eye masks, earplugs that still allow emergency wake, white noise apps that do not trigger responders, and a packed pillow can move the needle. Prescribed sleep medications can help in the short term, but I avoid sedative hypnotics for anyone who might be called in unexpectedly. Prazosin for nightmares has helped many, with dose adjustments made slowly to avoid dizziness in heat. The long view Careers in disaster response can last decades. People who thrive learn to treat their nervous system like a piece of gear that needs maintenance. They schedule therapy the way they schedule recertifications. They speak honestly with partners. They walk before they sit with a screen after a bad call. They participate in a peer team even when they are doing well, especially then. Agencies that cultivate this stance retain seasoned people who pass on craft wisdom to rookies without passing on cynicism. The work will never be tidy. The river will rise again, the wind will change, the fire will jump the line. Therapy and support do not make that less true. They make it survivable, and sometimes they make it meaningful. That is resilience worth sustaining. 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The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Most people discover ketamine therapy when everything else has already been tried. The acute results can be startling. Within hours to days, patients who have been stuck in severe depression, suicidal ideation, or trauma loops often report a lift in mood, a softening of ruminations, and new mental breathing room. The natural next question is whether those gains last. The honest answer is: sometimes, and for longer when treatment is structured, supported, and paired with psychotherapy. The long-term picture is promising yet incomplete, and that is where clinical judgment matters. A brief orientation to how ketamine may help At standard clinical doses, ketamine primarily modulates the glutamate system through NMDA receptor antagonism, which indirectly boosts AMPA activity. That shift appears to trigger synaptogenesis and increase brain derived neurotrophic factor, setting the stage for neuroplastic change. In practice, patients often describe a window in which entrenched cognitive and emotional patterns feel more malleable. If you use that window, you can consolidate healthier habits and narratives. If you do not, symptoms have a stronger tendency to drift back. Acute response rates for treatment resistant depression usually sit in the 50 to 70 percent range after an induction series, commonly six IV infusions at 0.5 mg per kg over two to three weeks. Intranasal esketamine, the only FDA approved ketamine formulation for depression, shows similar acute efficacy when paired with an oral antidepressant. PTSD symptoms also respond in some patients, particularly hyperarousal and intrusive thoughts, though the effect size is more variable and the field is earlier in its evidence curve. What durability looks like without and with maintenance If you stop after an induction series, the median time to meaningful symptom return often falls between two and six weeks. That is an average, not a destiny. Some people hold gains for several months, especially those with fewer prior treatment failures and good psychosocial stability. Others begin to fray within a fortnight. Maintenance changes the picture. Spaced treatments, usually every two to six weeks at the lightest effective frequency, tend to extend benefits. In clinical esketamine trials, ongoing dosing reduced relapse risk compared to discontinuation. Open label extension studies out to a year indicate many patients can maintain improvements with a flexible schedule that gradually lengthens intervals. The details matter. When maintenance is too frequent, you risk side effects, tolerance, and costs without additional mood stability. When it is too sparse, you invite a slow slide that becomes harder to reverse. I have seen three patterns in practice. Some patients become “as needed” users, returning for a booster during stressful seasons or early signs of regression, and they do well with light touch maintenance. Another group needs a standing rhythm, something like every three to four weeks, to keep the floor from falling out. A third group responds initially but cannot translate that into durable change even with maintenance. In that group, comorbidities such as untreated bipolar spectrum illness, active substance use disorder, or severe personality structure often play a role. They may benefit more from stabilizing the foundation before relying on ketamine. Safety across months and years The safety profile of medically supervised ketamine therapy has held up reasonably well in studies up to 12 months. Blood pressure and heart rate often rise transiently after dosing and typically normalize within one to two hours. Dissociation is common and short lived. Nausea occurs in a minority and is manageable with premedication. Cognitive side effects are usually transient, with patients reporting fogginess on dosing days, but neuropsychological testing in therapeutic dosing schedules has not shown meaningful long-term decline in most series. Urinary and bladder issues loom large in public discourse because of what is seen with heavy recreational use. At clinical doses and frequencies, the incidence appears low, but not zero. I have discontinued or paused treatment in a small number of patients who developed persistent urinary urgency and discomfort after months of regular dosing. Screening for urinary symptoms at every visit and encouraging hydration helps. If symptoms arise, hold doses, evaluate, and only resume if the patient returns fully to baseline and benefits clearly outweigh risks. Liver function abnormalities are rare, though I check baseline labs and follow up periodically for patients on longer maintenance. For those with hypertension or cardiovascular disease, pre treatment assessment and in session monitoring are essential. Pregnancy remains a caution zone. Data are insufficient, so I advise deferring unless potential benefits are extraordinary and a perinatal specialist is involved. The specter of addiction is real but nuanced. Most patients in structured programs with medical oversight do not develop misuse patterns. Cravings are uncommon when the goal is relief from depressive or trauma symptoms, not euphoria. Still, for individuals with current stimulant or opioid use disorders, or a history of compulsive use patterns, ketamine’s fast relief can become a fixation. In those cases, I either avoid ketamine or use it sparingly within a tight containment plan, often with addiction specialists on board. Depression, suicidality, and the long arc For unipolar treatment resistant depression, the long-term story is cautiously optimistic. Repeated studies confirm rapid relief, then a maintenance dependent slope to sustained recovery. The combination of esketamine and an oral antidepressant has some of the strongest evidence for relapse prevention when continued. That said, the 12 to 18 month horizon still lacks large, controlled datasets, and what we see clinically is a spectrum. About a third of patients can taper off after several months and keep benefits if they engage actively with psychotherapy, physical activity, and social structure. Another third require intermittent or ongoing dosing to hold the line. The remaining third either do not respond robustly, or response fades even with maintenance. For suicidality, ketamine’s rapid effect is valuable, often buying time to implement durable interventions. I never treat it as a standalone anti suicidal intervention. It is a bridge, not a destination. Safe discharge, lethal means counseling, family involvement when appropriate, and a clear follow up plan matter more than the molecule itself. PTSD and trauma outcomes, and where psychotherapy fits PTSD is not one thing. Some cases arise from single event traumas with clear memory targets. Others are rooted in chronic developmental adversity and attach to identity, relationships, and the body. Ketamine can help both, but in different ways, and only reliably when paired with precision trauma therapy. In PTSD therapy, lower hyperarousal and reduced avoidance create the conditions for effective trauma processing. I often time EMDR therapy during the plasticity window after an infusion, usually within 24 to 72 hours. Patients report that the bilateral stimulation feels more potent and that memories shift with less emotional overwhelm. The session tends to move from being stuck in the past to observing the past. When that happens repeatedly, long-term outcomes improve. In complex trauma, ketamine can soften dissociative shutdown or rage spikes, which makes stabilization and parts work more accessible before deeper processing. Prolonged exposure and cognitive processing therapy also pair well. The key is to decide intentionally. If the patient is still white knuckling through daily triggers, I keep sessions stabilization focused for a few ketamine cycles first. If they have sufficient grounding, I schedule a targeted exposure or EMDR reprocessing session within the post ketamine window. For trauma that lives in relationships, couples therapy has a role. I do not dose both partners together, but I often involve a partner in non dosing weeks to consolidate behavioral changes and rework communication patterns. The partner can help track early warning signs of relapse and can reinforce healthier narratives that emerged during sessions. In my experience, the couples who lean in this way report better durability of gains, not because ketamine “fixed” the relationship, but because it created momentum that therapy turned into new habits. How programs structure care for longevity Unstructured ketamine use tends to drift into irregular patterns, missed opportunities for consolidation, and higher relapse. A program geared for long-term outcomes does a few things consistently. It sets expectations that ketamine therapy is not a cure, it is a catalyst. It builds a scaffold of care around the dosing days, including preparation, integration, and routine check ins. It screens for treatable obstacles such as sleep apnea, unaddressed thyroid disorders, and bipolarity. It watches function, not only mood scores, since work, parenting, and social engagement are where durability shows up. Below is the core scaffold I use for adults with treatment resistant depression or mixed depression and PTSD. It is not the only working model, but it has held up across hundreds of courses. Preparation week: clarify goals, review safety, align on signals of success beyond symptom scales, and schedule psychotherapy to land within 24 to 72 hours after early doses. Induction: six infusions across 2 to 3 weeks, or FDA approved esketamine twice weekly for four weeks, with weekly psychotherapy focused on integration rather than analysis. Transition: two to four weeks of weekly or biweekly dosing as needed, with a deliberate plan to test longer intervals, and at least one structured trauma therapy or skills session in each week. Maintenance: define the lightest effective interval for dosing, usually every 3 to 6 weeks, anchored by ongoing psychotherapy, sleep regularization, exercise, and social re engagement. Review points: formal reevaluation at 8 to 12 weeks and again at 6 months to decide whether to taper, hold steady, or pivot to alternative strategies. Small operational details make a difference. I ask patients to keep a brief log for the first 48 hours after each dose, noting energy, anxiety, and specific thoughts that felt new or useful. Those notes turn into targets for therapy, which tightens the loop between insight and action. When patients come in flat or ambivalent, we do not dose by default. We revisit aims and obstacles first. If motivation is low because sleep is wrecked or alcohol has crept back in, I fix those before adding more ketamine. Comparing ketamine with other interventional options ECT remains the most effective acute intervention for severe or psychotic depression, with decades of data, but it carries cognitive side effects that matter to certain patients. Transcranial magnetic stimulation is more gradual than ketamine and does not work as quickly for acute suicidality, yet its side https://www.canyonpassages.com/locations/pagosa-springs-co effect profile is lighter and durability can be excellent after a full course with maintenance taps. Ketamine sits between these in speed, invasiveness, and logistics. For some, it is the right first interventional step. For others, TMS or ECT will be a better fit given comorbidities, access, or personal values. I spell this out at the start so patients do not feel painted into a corner. Who tends to hold gains, and who struggles Durability improves when patients have a few advantages. Stable housing and routine matter. Willingness to engage in psychotherapy, whether EMDR therapy, cognitive approaches, or trauma focused modalities, matters even more. Physical activity is not optional for long-term mood regulation. Patients who start walking daily or return to prior exercise usually describe more even weeks between doses. On the flip side, the red flags for short lived gains are consistent. Recurrent major depression layered on untreated ADHD or sleep apnea is a setup for relapse. So is ongoing cannabis or alcohol heavy use, which blunts the clarity many patients feel after dosing. A hidden bipolar spectrum diagnosis will often reveal itself as the weeks pass, with agitation and reduced need for sleep after sessions. If that emerges, I pause ketamine, start or optimize a mood stabilizer, and reassess the whole plan. What we still do not know The ceiling of safe long-term exposure, measured in years rather than months, and how low frequency maintenance interacts with cumulative risk. Whether specific psychotherapy pairings, such as EMDR therapy versus prolonged exposure, consistently outperform others when timed to the plasticity window. The best biomarkers to predict who will sustain response, from sleep architecture to inflammatory markers or cognitive profiles. How ketamine compares head to head with TMS or ECT for durability when each is embedded in a robust psychotherapy and maintenance plan. The precise risk of bladder and cognitive effects with multi year, low frequency clinical dosing, beyond what we extrapolate from recreational cohorts. The field is working on these questions. Several groups are studying session timing for trauma therapy around dosing, and others are testing algorithms that shift maintenance intervals based on passive data like step counts and sleep duration. Until those data firm up, we rely on careful monitoring and individualized plans. A short vignette from practice A 38 year old teacher with a decade of recurrent depression and a history of childhood emotional neglect came in after two partial responses to SSRIs and a year of dulled functioning on augmentation strategies. PHQ 9 sat at 20, sleep fragmented, appetite low, weekends spent in bed. We started ketamine infusions at standard dosing. By the third session, her self talk softened and she began to imagine saying yes to small invitations. I placed EMDR sessions two days after infusions, focusing on a handful of specific early memories and the present day triggers they fed. We tracked a simple weekly dashboard, not just the scale scores. She committed to 20 minute morning walks with a colleague after the second week. By week four, she had three consecutive days with normal appetite and two social outings. At week six, we tested a longer gap. Mood dipped by day ten, so we returned for a booster on day twelve and resumed a 3.5 week interval for two months. During that time, we pivoted EMDR to install a future template for school year stress. After six months, we tapered to as needed dosing. Two months later she asked for a booster during parent teacher conference season, then none for the next three months. A year out, she describes depression as background static she can manage. That arc is not unique, but it required structure, not just a molecule. Ketamine for anxiety and comorbidity Anxiety disorders often improve alongside mood, especially the ruminative forms tied to depression. Panic disorder is more mixed. I use smaller, slower infusions for patients with high baseline anxiety to avoid in session panic and titrate up. OCD symptoms may budge transiently, but exposure and response prevention remains the backbone of durable change; ketamine can prime patients to tolerate exposures that previously felt impossible. For those with chronic pain and depression, ketamine’s analgesic properties can create a double benefit. It can also mask pain signals in ways that impede rational pacing. I set clear activity boundaries on dosing days and ensure patients do not overdo physical tasks that could flare pain later. Couples and families as stabilizers Long-term outcomes improve when the home environment shifts in tandem with the patient. A partner or family member does not need to be a co therapist, but they can be a stabilizer. Involving them thoughtfully pays off. In couples therapy sessions between doses, we rehearse short phrases that reduce escalation, clarify practical support during integration days, and reset expectations around chores, sleep, and intimacy. When the partner understands the typical 24 to 72 hour arc after a dose, small misinterpretations stop turning into fights. That reduces stress spikes that otherwise push relapse. In family contexts, especially with adolescents and young adults, I emphasize boundaries and routines more than insight work early on. The structure becomes the container for gains. For adults caring for children or parents, scheduling predictably and lining up backup care around dosing days makes the process sustainable. Red flags and practical safety notes If a patient starts asking for earlier and earlier doses without clear symptom data or functional setbacks, I pause and reassess. If blood pressure spikes persist beyond the dosing window, I adjust the regimen or involve cardiology. New urinary symptoms mean a hold and a workup. When agitation, reduced sleep, or grandiosity appear post dose, think bipolarity and change course. With new memory complaints or prolonged fog that extends beyond days after dosing, consider cognitive testing and a lower frequency plan, or a full stop. For patients with PTSD who dissociate heavily during sessions, I keep doses at the low end and build grounding skills first. In EMDR therapy for highly dissociative patients, I sometimes delay active reprocessing until we have several sessions of resource installation in the ketamine boosted window. It is slower, but durability beats drama. Where the field is heading Clinicians are already moving toward more precise dosing and timing. Some use slightly lower doses for those with anxiety dominance and slightly higher for those with severe anhedonia, always within safe ranges. Many are standardizing integration frameworks that borrow from trauma therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and behavioral activation. A few are testing group based integration models, which may improve access and reduce cost while preserving outcomes. On the research side, better long-term data are coming. Registries that track dosing, intervals, urinary outcomes, cognition, and function over multiple years will clarify risk and guide consent. We also need head to head studies that include psychotherapy as a constant across arms. Until then, the art of care is in matching the known strengths of ketamine therapy with the right scaffolding, and in declining to use it when the context is wrong. A grounded takeaway Ketamine therapy opens a door. Long-term outcomes depend on what you do once it is open. The molecule can create a window of neuroplasticity and relief that feels like a reset. That reset becomes durable when patients and clinicians pair it with structured maintenance, targeted psychotherapy such as EMDR therapy or other trauma therapy, attention to sleep and exercise, and, when relevant, couples therapy to change daily dynamics. With that full stack approach, many people hold their gains for months and, in some cases, taper off entirely. Without it, the early light fades sooner and the cycle resumes. Used thoughtfully, ketamine therapy is not a miracle, but it can be a hinge point. The work around it is what turns a hinge into a new doorway rather than a revolving one. 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The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Bringing a baby home rearranges the furniture in a relationship, not just the nursery. The calendar fills itself. Sleep disappears. Tasks multiply, many of them invisible. What used to be easy, like having a complete thought or finishing a cup of coffee, becomes rare. In my practice, I often meet couples two to six months after birth, when the adrenaline drops and the reality of a new life settles in. They arrive bewildered by friction that did not exist before, or not at this volume. That confusion is a good sign. It means the bond matters enough to ask for help. This is where couples therapy earns its keep. The goal is not to restore the old relationship. That one is gone, in the same way the pre-baby home is gone. The goal is to build a sturdier version that fits the new landscape, with room for exhaustion, awe, fear, and a child who changes every few weeks. With practice and some structure, partners can trade scorekeeping for teamwork, and move from parallel survival to shared meaning. What changes that nobody talks about enough People expect less sleep and more laundry. They do not always expect the identity whiplash. In the space of a day, you become a parent, and the rest of your roles shift to make space. Work feels different. Friendships recalibrate. Family dynamics intensify. Libido often drops for a while, especially after a medicalized birth or a complicated recovery. For many, the nervous system runs hotter, scanning for every small risk. When the body is in threat mode, patience thins and small slights register as big ones. Add the realities of care work. A feeding can take 20 to 40 minutes, followed by burping, diapering, and soothing. That loop can run eight to twelve times in 24 hours in the early weeks. If one partner is carrying most of those cycles, resentment grows quickly, even if the other partner is working long days. It is not about hours worked. It is about how that labor shows up in your body and whether your effort feels seen. Then there is the math of touch. One partner might be touched all day by the baby, their body taxed by healing and hormonal shifts, so sexual touch feels like one more demand. The other partner might be starved for adult touch and puzzled by the distance. Both are valid experiences. Without language for this mismatch, couples slip into stalled patterns. Therapy helps you build a shared map. Early conflict is not a verdict on your compatibility I often hear some version of, If we were really compatible, this would be easier. That is a myth. The first year after a baby typically brings a measurable drop in relationship satisfaction for most couples. This is not failure. It is physiology and logistics colliding with two humans who love each other and are both depleted. Expect friction. Expect misunderstandings. What predicts long term stability is not the absence of conflict, but how quickly you repair after it. Repair is a skill, not a trait. It can be learned under pressure. Couples therapy offers a rehearsal space where you slow the tape and practice the moves when your heart rate is not spiking. Then you take those moves home. A story from the room A couple I will call Maya and Luis arrived three months after their son was born. Maya had a tough delivery and a slow recovery. She was breastfeeding every two to three hours around the clock. Luis returned to work after two weeks and often came home after the bedtime window. By the time he walked in, Maya was saturated. He tried to help by doing dishes and laundry. He assumed that was the best use of his limited time. She wanted him to take the baby for one full wake window so she could nap alone with the door closed. They had never said this out loud. In therapy, we wrote it down. We created a 90 minute evening block, four nights a week, that was only for Maya’s recovery and for bonding between Luis and their son. It shifted the whole feel of their evenings. The dishes could wait. This is not a one size plan. It is an example of how granular solutions often beat vague promises. Couples rarely fight about the idea of support. They fight about when, how, and at what cost. The nervous system explains more than you think Sleep loss rewires your mood and attention in ways that mimic anxiety and depression. Cortisol and adrenaline ride higher. The threshold for threat detection drops. You might find yourself startling at small noises, snapping at your partner for minor lapses, or forgetting simple tasks. That is not a moral failing. It is biology. Trauma can ride in on the birth experience as well. An emergency C-section, a NICU stay, a hemorrhage, a partner who felt helpless during labor, or a provider who did not listen, any of these can leave imprints. If you or your partner find yourselves reliving moments from the birth, avoiding reminders, having nightmares, or staying constantly on edge beyond the early weeks, it might be time to consider trauma therapy. Approaches like EMDR therapy can be effective for processing stuck memories and reducing the intensity of triggers. When trauma responses are active, couples communication often collapses into fight, flight, or freeze. Treating the nervous system alongside the relationship shifts the whole dynamic. Communication that fits a tired brain High minded dialogues are wonderful on a Sunday afternoon, not at 2 a.m. After a feed. You need short, repeatable scripts. One of my favorites is the “state and ask” format. State your current state in one sentence, then ask for a concrete action. Example: I am at a 7 out of 10 on overwhelm right now, and I need you to take the baby for the next 30 minutes so I can shower and lie down. Notice the numbers. Subjective ratings help your partner calibrate. And the time box reduces ambiguity. Where many couples trip is offering generalities, like I need more help, or You never think about what needs doing. That language invites a debate about fairness. Specifics invite action. Set up a standing weekly check in. Make it short and predictable. Keep it focused on logistics and feelings, not grievances disguised as ideas. Include a question about connection, not just about tasks. Many couples manage the household well but forget to feed the bond. Here is a lightweight agenda that holds up when you are both tired: Wins and gratitude from the week, one each What is one small thing that made this week harder What is one practical change we will try for the next seven days Where did we miss each other emotionally, and what would help in the coming week Touch point: plan two micro moments of connection for the calendar Those five items often take 15 to 25 minutes. Keep it boring and consistent. The point is not catharsis. It is rhythm. Division of labor without a ledger Fairness in the first https://rentry.co/z92n82em year is not a 50-50 split. It is flexible equity. Each of you brings different constraints. If one partner is healing from birth, lactating, or pumping, their cognitive and physical load will be different than the partner who is not. If one partner carries the family health insurance or has a job with no parental leave, those realities matter. Map the work with enough detail to see it clearly. Include the invisible tasks like tracking nap windows, packing the diaper bag, scheduling pediatric visits, and knowing where the extra pacifiers live. Many couples find that listing tasks by ownership reduces friction. Ownership means anticipate, execute, and improve the system over time, not just help when asked. Rotations help too. For example, swap the early morning routine every other day, or alternate who handles bottles and who handles laundry on weekends. When debates flare, ground them in your values. If you care more about sleep than spotless counters for the next 90 days, make choices that reflect that. If you both value outdoor time, prioritize a daily stroller loop even if the kitchen is a mess. Values help you say no to lower priority tasks so you can say yes to rest or connection. Intimacy, touch, and the slow return of desire For a lot of couples, sex slows or stops for months. Pain, fear, birth trauma, exhaustion, body image shifts, medical restrictions, and hormonal changes all affect desire. None of this means you are broken as a couple. It does mean you need a different plan for intimacy that does not hinge on the old script. I suggest building a menu of touch that includes zero pressure options. Start with side by side time that is not about sleep. Trade 10 minute back rubs a few nights a week. Try hand holding on walks. Shower together if that feels good. Put the focus on safety and comfort first. Then arousal can return at its own pace. If sex has become a charged topic, a repair conversation helps. Keep it short. Validate the hard parts. Make one small promise you can keep this week, like scheduling an hour for massage with the option to stop at any point. If fear or pain are active, add a pelvic floor physical therapist or an OB follow up. Anxiety around sex after birth is common and treatable. Couples therapy can give both partners a shared way to talk about it without blame. When mood shifts cross the line into concern Baby blues usually resolve within two weeks. If sadness, irritability, hopelessness, or anxiety persist, intensify, or interfere with daily function, you may be looking at postpartum depression or anxiety. The same is true if intrusive thoughts become frequent or sticky, even if you know you would never act on them. Partners can experience these conditions too, not just the birthing parent. Left untreated, these symptoms strain the relationship and rob both of you of joy. This is where a coordinated plan helps. A therapist who understands perinatal mental health, along with your primary care provider or OB, can guide treatment. PTSD therapy can be crucial when birth trauma is involved. Some clients benefit from medications that are compatible with breastfeeding, prescribed by clinicians who know this field. Ketamine therapy has gained attention for treatment resistant depression in general, but its role in the perinatal period is still being studied. If it is considered, it should be under the care of specialists who weigh risks and benefits with sensitivity to pregnancy and lactation, and only after trying standard, better studied treatments. The point is to treat the mood disorder so you can both show up for each other and your baby. The art of repair after hard moments You will snap at each other. You will say the wrong thing. Repairing fast keeps resentment from calcifying. A reliable sequence looks simple, but doing it while tired takes practice. Pause and regulate: breathe, drink water, take 5 minutes apart if needed Name your part without explaining it away Validate the impact on your partner in one or two sentences Offer a specific amends or next step you will take Reconnect physically in a way that fits the moment, like a hand squeeze or a hug Skip the long debate. Explanations can wait until the weekly check in. In the moment, you are aiming to lower arousal, restore safety, and move the day forward. Grandparents, friends, and the hazard of unsolicited advice Support is priceless, and it is also complicated. Well meaning family can flood your home with opinions. Some of those opinions will be useful. Some will collide with your values or your sanity. Before visits, set guardrails together. Put agreements in writing if that helps. Simple scripts save you in the moment. We appreciate your help, and we are following our pediatrician’s guidance on feeding and sleep. Please check with us before picking up the baby. At 6 p.m. We are starting our wind down routine. Treat visitors like coworkers in a high stakes project. Assign tasks that free you up, like a grocery run, meal prep, or a yard task. Most people want to help. They just need direction. Money, career, and the pressure to perform New parents often hit their first serious money talks after birth. Lost income, childcare costs, medical bills, and career stalls are common stressors. The resentment cycle flares here too, especially if one partner feels trapped at home or one feels forced back to work before ready. Use time limited experiments. For the next three months, we will adjust our budget, pause nonessential subscriptions, and test a nanny share two days a week. We will revisit in June with real numbers. Experiments reduce the pressure to get it right on the first try. They also let you pivot as your baby’s needs change. Career identity often wobbles. One partner might feel relief at a break from ambition. The other might feel lost without it. Name those shifts without judgment. The goal is not to hold a previous center, but to build a new one that accounts for caregiving, energy, and meaning. Sleep is a relationship intervention I have watched resentment drop 50 percent after a week of more consolidated sleep for one partner. Protecting sleep is kindness, not luxury. Trade nights, split nights, or outsource one or two feeds a week if possible. If lactation constrains your options, daylight naps count. Even 90 minutes can reset a nervous system. When both of you are sleep deprived, solve for the primary risk. For some families, this means prioritizing the driving partner’s sleep on work nights. For others, it means protecting the healing parent’s first stretch every night for a month. Stated values help here too. If sleep is persistently fragmented despite effort, consider a pediatric sleep consult to assess feeding and soothing patterns. Sleep training is a charged topic, but there are many gentle, developmentally sensitive approaches. The point is not a perfect method. It is a family system where nobody is drowning. The small rituals that keep you a couple, not just co-parents Big date nights may be off the table for a while. Small rituals do heavy lifting. A 10 second kiss before whoever leaves the house. Coffee together for five minutes while the baby plays on a blanket. A short walk after dinner most nights. Two minutes of eye contact without screens after the baby is down. You are building muscle memory for connection under constraint. Shared humor helps too. New parent life is absurd in ways that deserve laughter. Trade the day’s most ridiculous moment at bedtime. Keep a running list on your phone. Humor coexists with hardship. It does not cancel it. It stitches you together while you shoulder it. When to bring in specialized help If you keep cycling through the same fights, if one or both of you feel chronically unseen, or if trauma signs persist, do not wait. Couples therapy is not only for relationships on the edge. It is for building better habits before the ruts deepen. A therapist trained in perinatal issues can hold both the practical and the emotional layers, including sex, identity, and family boundaries. If trauma looms large, ask specifically about trauma therapy modalities. EMDR therapy can be effective for birth related PTSD symptoms, helping to process stuck memories and reduce physiological reactivity. Somatic approaches that include breathwork and grounding can complement talk work. PTSD therapy is not just for violent events. Medical trauma and prolonged fear fit the bill. On the medical side, consult with clinicians who know perinatal pharmacology if mood or anxiety symptoms interfere with daily living. Medication, when indicated, can coexist with therapy and breastfeeding under close guidance. As noted earlier, ketamine therapy may be discussed in treatment resistant cases outside the perinatal window, and any consideration during pregnancy or lactation requires specialist oversight and caution. The guiding principle is safety and function for both parents and the infant. Building your own playbook Every family writes a different manual. What matters is that you write it together. Here are elements I encourage couples to include in their first year playbook: A standing weekly check in with a short, repeatable agenda A clear division of labor document with owners and rotations A sleep protection plan that evolves every 4 to 6 weeks A menu of intimacy that starts with low pressure touch A list of warning signs for mood and trauma, with a plan for who to call Print it. Stick it on the fridge. Expect it to change. When you review it, notice what worked, not just what failed. That builds momentum. The long view In year one, your relationship is not static. It is a workshop. You will jury rig systems, scrap them, and try again. The work is not about perfection. It is about staying allies. The moments that matter rarely look dramatic. They look like a glass of water handed to someone who cannot get up because the baby finally fell asleep on them. They look like a partner who owns the 5 a.m. Window so the other can let their shoulders drop for one more hour. They look like an apology offered before coffee. Couples therapy is a place to practice these moves with intention, to understand your nervous systems, and to treat the injuries that might be hitchhiking from birth or before. The investment pays out not only in fewer fights, but in a home where two adults feel held while they hold a child. That is the kind of stability kids can feel in the air. It is also the kind you will remember when the baby is a teenager and sleep returns in a different form. 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The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

There is a quiet confidence that settles into couples who prepare with intention. They are not guarding against disaster, they are laying track. Pre-marital counseling through couples therapy gives you the conversations, skills, and habits that make daily life smoother and conflict less costly. It is not about predicting whether a relationship will work, it is about building the system that helps you work together when life tests you. What pre-marital couples therapy actually covers Good pre-marital work is more than a checklist before a wedding date. It is an assessment of how two people operate as a team under real conditions, with practice rounds for the pressure moments that arrive later. Sessions are structured and focused, yet flexible enough to meet the two of you where you actually live. Typical programs run 8 to 12 weekly or biweekly sessions, 60 to 90 minutes each. Some couples opt for a longer arc when histories are complex, or a condensed series if a date is close. A common sequence includes three phases. First, a thorough intake and assessment. I ask questions about family, culture, money, sex, mental health, faith, and conflict. Some clinicians use standardized tools like PREPARE/ENRICH or the Gottman Relationship Checkup. These instruments do not hand down verdicts; they highlight patterns. Second, targeted skill building. This is where you learn how to interrupt a fight, talk about money without escalating, or share a sexual preference without shame. Third, forward planning. We work through your first five years: where you will live, how you will handle a layoff, what happens if a parent becomes ill, whether children are part of your plan and how soon. Strong programs also screen for individual concerns that can spill into partnership: depression, anxiety, past trauma, substance use, and medical conditions. It is common for me to refer one or both partners for individual support such as trauma therapy or PTSD therapy when warranted. Attending to personal wounds before vows is not a detour, it is honest stewardship of the bond you are about to formalize. Why the investment pays off People usually reach out after a sharp disagreement about money, sex, or in-laws. That is a fine time to start, but you do not need a crisis. The payoff is concrete. When couples practice communication and repair skills ahead of time, their conflict episodes are shorter, less personal, and easier to recover from. Studies over the last two decades show that couples who complete structured pre-marital counseling report higher relationship satisfaction and lower divorce rates, with reductions often cited around 20 to 30 percent. No single number applies to every pair, yet the trend line is consistent: preparation helps. There is also a simple arithmetic to this. A typical series might cost the equivalent of a few months of dining out. The returns are years of smoother negotiations about schedules, finances, and intimacy. Reduced stress has health effects that are hard to quantify in dollars, but your nervous systems feel the difference. Communication that actually works under stress Platitudes about communication do not move the needle. You need techniques that hold up when your heart rate is high. Two that consistently help are soft start-ups and structured turns. A soft start-up means you begin a difficult conversation with a description of your experience and a clear request, not a judgment. Compare “You never listen” with “I felt brushed off last night when I tried to tell you about my day, and I am hoping we can set aside 15 minutes tonight to catch up.” The second version targets a behavior, not a character. It also makes a specific request, which gives your partner something to say yes to. Structured turns are a way to slow down and keep both people engaged. One person speaks for a minute or two, the listener paraphrases without defending, then they switch. Done well, this keeps you from arguing about whether you are allowed to feel a certain way and keeps the focus on the issue at hand. Many couples are surprised to learn this works even for small topics like chores. After 10 or 15 minutes, you have a short list of agreements, not an hour of escalation. I also teach micro-repairs. These are tiny bids that redirect a tense moment. A hand on the shoulder, a “That came out sharp, I am on your side,” a glass of water placed silently on the table. They sound small because they are small, yet couples who sprinkle micro-repairs throughout an argument de-escalate faster. The skill is noticing rupture and choosing repair sooner. Money, roles, and the unspoken assumptions beneath them Most conflict about money is not about math, it is about meaning. Spend a session or two on the stories you learned about earning, spending, saving, and debt. If one of you grew up pinching pennies and the other heard “money is to be enjoyed,” you are not just comparing budgets, you are reconciling identities. Practical details matter. Agree on who pays which bills, what counts as a joint versus individual expense, and how you will handle surprises like a car repair. Couples often pick a range for discretionary spending with a ceiling for purchases that require a check-in. For example, anything over 300 dollars gets discussed, which avoids both micromanagement and resentment. Roles at home are another friction point. Tally time, not tasks. If one person cooks most nights, perhaps the other handles dishes and garbage without being asked. Invisible labor, like planning vacations or buying birthday gifts for relatives, takes time too. Naming it out loud is not nitpicking; it is how you prevent a quiet ledger of resentment. Sex and intimacy without taboo Pre-marital counseling is an excellent place to talk openly about sexual history, health, desire, and boundaries. Many partners assume the relationship should “just flow,” and they avoid specifics because it feels unromantic. In my office I normalize directness. You talk about contraception, STI testing, frequency, fantasy, turn-ons, and turn-offs. You also talk about what intimacy means beyond sex: affection, words of affirmation, time together, acts of service. Sometimes there is a mismatch in drive or preference. That is not unusual, and it is not a sentence. You aim for a collaborative erotic life that supports both partners. For some couples, a simple plan helps: when to initiate, how to handle a no with warmth, and how to recalibrate if work stress or medications affect libido. If sexual pain, trauma history, or shame is part of the picture, I co-treat with a pelvic floor physical therapist, a sex therapist, or refer for trauma therapy so the couple is not trying to white-knuckle their way through. Family systems, culture, and boundaries that hold You are not marrying one person, you are connecting two family systems and, often, two cultures. Expect differences in holidays, foods, time orientation, and hospitality. Some of this is fun. Some of it triggers loyalty binds. A common example: one partner expects weekly Sunday dinners with parents, the other wants quiet weekends at home. Couples therapy helps you draft boundary scripts you can both use, such as “We love seeing you, we are reserving one Sunday per month for family dinner and keeping the rest open for the two of us.” Interfaith or intercultural partnerships benefit from extra, practical specificity. Decide which traditions you will adopt, how you will handle children’s religious education if you choose to have kids, and what you will do when a relative disapproves. Preparing a united front now spares you from improvising later when emotions run high at a holiday table. Conflict rituals you can rely on Even strong couples hit snags. What distinguishes resilient pairs is not the absence of fights, it is their rituals of repair. When I work with couples before marriage, we co-create a conflict playbook that fits their styles and nervous systems. You do not need a complicated protocol. You need a few reliable moves that both of you agree to practice. Pause: Either partner can call a time-out when flooded, using a mutually agreed phrase like “I am at 90 percent.” No eye-rolling or mockery allowed. Reset: Separate for 20 to 30 minutes to physiologically downshift. No ruminating or drafting your next point. Do something that lowers heart rate, like a walk or slow breathing. Return: Come back at an agreed time the same day whenever possible. Start with a soft start-up and one concrete request. Repair: End by naming what went well, even if you did not solve everything, and agree on the next small step. Think of this as muscle memory. You practice it when the stakes are low, and it shows up when the stakes are high. When trauma is in the room Unprocessed trauma does not simply live in memory, it lives in bodies and relationships. A combat veteran who flinches at a slammed door, a survivor of childhood neglect who scans for abandonment, a partner with a medical trauma who panics at uncertainty. In a pre-marital setting, I watch for trauma signs: rapid shifts to defensiveness, shutdown in the face of feedback, disproportionate reactions to minor events. Trauma therapy can run alongside couples therapy. EMDR therapy, for example, can help a partner reprocess disturbing memories that keep hijacking present-day interactions. PTSD therapy might focus on hyperarousal, nightmares, or avoidance that limits closeness. When a trauma response drives conflict, I slow down couples work and refer for individual treatment so that the couple does not try to solve a nervous system problem with a communication technique alone. Some couples ask about ketamine therapy for depression or trauma that has not responded to standard approaches. Under medical supervision, ketamine therapy can reduce severe depressive symptoms quickly for some people, which may lessen relationship strain. A careful plan matters. You coordinate with a prescribing clinician, clarify expectations, and pair it with ongoing psychotherapy so insights from sessions translate into daily behavior. It is not a cure-all, and not everyone is a candidate, especially those with certain medical or psychiatric conditions. When used thoughtfully, it can be part of a larger recovery strategy that benefits the couple’s day-to-day connection. A trauma-informed couples therapist will also adjust the room. That might look like seating arrangements that reduce startle, permission to step out when overwhelmed, and explicit consent for physical touch during sessions. We also emphasize choice. If a topic feels too hot, we pendulate, meaning we move gently toward and away from it in tolerable doses. Second marriages and blended families Pre-marital counseling for a second marriage has distinct layers. You are designing a partnership while tending to old scar tissue and often blending children, ex-partners, and finances. Logistics get real. You map out school transfers, holidays, and pickup routines with realistic time buffers. In my experience, the biggest gift you can give a new marriage in this situation is a strong parenting plan that recognizes children’s adjustment curves. Many kids need 6 to 18 months to settle into a new home rhythm. Defining stepparent roles with care prevents a wave of loyalty conflicts. We focus on slow, steady relationship building with stepchildren and clear boundaries with former spouses to reduce triangulation. Long-distance, immigration stress, and chronic illness Some engaged couples live in different cities for work or immigration reasons. Your pre-marital plan should include time zones, frequency of visits, and a shared calendar that shows who is traveling when. Conflict repair by text is rough. Set a rule that hard topics are for video or voice, not long message threads where tone gets lost. Immigration adds legal uncertainty and pressure on timelines. Acknowledge that stress explicitly. Build in rituals that ground you both, like weekly calls focused only on connection, not paperwork. If chronic illness or disability is part of the partnership, you do best with a care map that covers flare plans, medication management, and financial protections. Name grief where it arises, and make room for both caregiver identity and partner identity so that intimacy does not disappear into logistics. Technology, privacy, and sexual media Phones, social media, and pornography are part of modern life. Avoid vague promises like “we will trust each other.” Trust has structure. Decide whether phones are allowed at the dinner table, whether you will share passcodes, what you consider private versus secret, and how you will discuss discomfort rather than snooping. If pornography is in the mix, talk about frequency, content, and whether it is solo or shared. Some couples find it neutral or even connecting, others find it disruptive. The right stance is the one you arrive at together with clarity and consent. A short checklist for the conversations couples skip Use this to spark the talks most people delay. If you cannot answer an item without defensiveness or vagueness, that is a perfect topic for your next session. How will we handle a year when one of us earns much less, by choice or by circumstance? What are our sexual health practices and preferences, including frequency and boundaries? Which family traditions will we keep, modify, or decline, and how will we communicate that? What is our plan if one of us wants children sooner, later, or not at all? Where do we draw lines around privacy and technology, including passcodes and social media posting? A day in the room: two vignettes Maria and Jonah arrived two months before their wedding. Their fights looked textbook, which is exactly what helps. Jonah raised his voice when scared, Maria shut down. If left alone, the pattern would calcify. We practiced Jonah’s soft start-ups and breath pacing. He learned to catch the urge to press when Maria went quiet. Maria learned to say “I am not gone, I need two minutes, then I will reflect back what I heard.” I had them do a 10-minute daily check-in after dinner, phones in a drawer. Six weeks later they reported that arguments still happened, but they had boundaries. Jonah called fewer time-outs because he did not feel cornered. Maria did not feel hunted for answers. That sounds small; it is not. It is the spine of day-to-day peace. A more complex case involved Titus, a firefighter with untreated trauma from a fatal call, and Deja, a nurse. They loved fiercely and clashed often. Loud noises triggered Titus at odd moments. The wedding date was set, but we pressed pause on some couple goals and added individual PTSD therapy for him, with EMDR therapy as the core. In parallel, I taught them co-regulation: Deja learned what not to do when Titus froze, and Titus practiced signaling “triggered, not about you.” We agreed on a rule that big relationship talks could not start after 9 p.m. Deja stopped taking the startle personally, which reduced her own defensiveness. After eight EMDR sessions, Titus reported fewer intrusive memories and started sleeping through the night. Their couple sessions got deeper because the room was not flooded with old ghosts. The marriage, as Deja later told me, felt like “two people rowing, not one person dragging the boat.” Prenuptial agreements without drama Prenups get a bad reputation as a prediction of failure. They can be, but they can also be a planning document for complex lives. Entrepreneurs, families with intergenerational assets, and people marrying later in life often benefit from a prenup. Couples therapy is a good place to untangle the emotions so that your lawyer can do clean legal work. We separate fairness from fear. We ask what protections matter if a business fails or succeeds, how to treat retirement accounts, and what happens to property purchased before marriage. When you anchor the conversation to mutual care, many of the sharp edges soften. Mental health and medication conversations Pre-marital work benefits from frank talk about mental health diagnoses, medications, and treatment history. If one of you has a recurrent major depression, name your early warning signs and the support plan. If ADHD affects executive function, design systems that make shared life easier: calendar alerts, task boards on the fridge, Sunday night planning. If ketamine therapy or another intervention is on the table for treatment-resistant depression, place it within a broader strategy that includes ongoing psychotherapy and medical oversight. Align on how you will make decisions about starting, pausing, or changing medications so that choices are shared, not sprung. The first five years: designing how you will grow You cannot forecast everything, but you can stack the deck in your favor. The first five years are when routines gel and identity shifts take hold. Promotions, graduate school, moves, pregnancies or decisions against them, friendships evolving. The healthiest couples I see make proactive choices. They pick a weekly ritual that is hard to break, like a Saturday morning walk with coffee, or a Thursday night budget review that ends with a glass of wine. They defend sleep. They apologize quickly and specifically. They weed their calendar once a quarter so that their relationship does not survive on leftovers. Plan also for fun. Many couples forget this when the wedding planning ends and the inbox fills. Set a modest adventure fund. It can be 20 dollars a month or 200, the number matters less than the intent. Novelty, even small doses, keeps couples curious about each other. A practical path to get started If you are interviewing therapists, quick-fit questions matter. Ask about their training in couples therapy modalities, whether they incorporate assessment tools, and how they handle trauma or differential desire. If you suspect trauma is in play, ask if they coordinate with individual trauma therapy or EMDR therapy. If you are exploring medical treatments like ketamine therapy, confirm they collaborate with prescribers and keep clear role boundaries. Most couples do https://donovanjmhr673.raidersfanteamshop.com/emdr-therapy-for-attachment-injuries-repairing-the-bond well with a short arc of structured sessions and then booster sessions at predictable intervals. Mark your calendar now for a check-in session around your first anniversary or after the first major life change. Think of it like preventive care. You do not wait for a cavity to return to the dentist. What progress looks like Progress is not the absence of friction, it is the presence of skills and goodwill. After several sessions, you should notice fewer circular arguments. When you do argue, you will recover faster and get to specific agreements. Your money talks will turn into plans with dates. Sex will feel easier to discuss without accusation or retreat. You will have shared language for family boundaries and a map for high-stress weeks. If trauma sits at the center of your story, you will have a path for healing that does not ask the relationship to carry what the nervous system needs to release. If you want a simple litmus test, use this: Can each of you name one concrete way you have changed for the better because of your partner, and one concrete way you protect your partner’s well-being when stressed? If both answers come quickly, the foundation is taking shape. A note on values and vows All of this work points toward meaning. Not perfection, not performance, meaning. Pre-marital counseling helps you pull vows down from the air and anchor them to behaviors you can repeat. Loyalty becomes “I will not share your confidences without consent.” Presence becomes “I will look up from my phone when you enter the room.” Care becomes “I will ask what support you want before I try to fix it.” Over time, these small, repeatable acts carry the weight of the words you will speak on your wedding day. What you are building is not armor against life. It is a living system that bends without breaking. Couples therapy, supported when needed by trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, or adjunct treatments like EMDR therapy and medically supervised ketamine therapy, gives you the tools to meet the unexpected with steadiness. The foundation is not made of ideals, it is made of practices. Start them now, while the scaffolding is easy to move, and you will thank yourselves when the walls go up and the weather changes. Canyon Passages Name: Canyon Passages Clinician: Kelly Chisholm, MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP; Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant Address: 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505 Address note: The official website also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507; please confirm the exact suite/location before visiting. Phone: (505) 303-0137 Website: https://www.canyonpassages.com/ Email: [email protected] Hours: Sunday: Closed Monday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Tuesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Thursday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Friday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Saturday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Open-location code / plus code: M355+GV Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA Coordinates: 35.6587872, -105.9403342 Map/listing URL: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv Embed iframe: Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages X: https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalBusiness", "@id": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/#localbusiness", "name": "Canyon Passages", "url": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/", "telephone": "+15053030137", "email": "[email protected]", "address": "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "1800 Old Pecos Trail", "addressLocality": "Santa Fe", "addressRegion": "NM", "postalCode": "87505", "addressCountry": "US" , "areaServed": [ "@type": "City", "name": "Santa Fe" , "@type": "City", "name": "Sedona" , "@type": "City", "name": "Pagosa Springs" , "@type": "State", "name": "New Mexico" , "@type": "State", "name": "Arizona" , "@type": "State", "name": "Colorado" ], "openingHoursSpecification": [ "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Monday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Tuesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Wednesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Thursday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Friday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Saturday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" ], "sameAs": [ "https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660", "https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/", "https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/", "https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages", "https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT", "https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages" ], "geo": "@type": "GeoCoordinates", "latitude": 35.6587872, "longitude": -105.9403342 , "hasMap": "https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv" 🤖 Explore this content with AI: 💬 ChatGPT 🔍 Perplexity 🤖 Claude 🔮 Google AI Mode 🐦 Grok Canyon Passages provides EMDR-focused psychotherapy and depth-oriented trauma support for individuals and couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Grief rearranges a relationship. The rhythms that once felt easy begin to snag on the small things, how long someone lingers over breakfast, whose turn it is to answer friends, which holidays to avoid. Partners who have always functioned well as a team can suddenly look like they speak different languages. One wants to talk at night, the other sleeps in a chair because the bed feels haunted. It is not a failure of love. It is the nature of loss. Couples therapy offers a way to mourn together without losing each other. What grief does to a bond Grief is not just sadness. It is a full body experience that affects attention, sleep, immune function, and appetite. It also impacts the couple’s microclimate. Each partner brings a history of attachment, coping habits, family rules about emotion, and spiritual narratives. Loss applies pressure to those fault lines. Two themes show up frequently in the therapy room. The first is asymmetry of expression. One partner cries easily or wants to keep the lost person present through stories and rituals. The other focuses on logistics, fills time with tasks, avoids reminders, or seems stoic. The second is timing. Grief moves in waves. The waves usually do not peak for both partners at once. When these differences collide, both can feel alone and misjudged, which compounds pain. There is also a practical reorganization. If a death or serious diagnosis removes a caregiver, a paycheck, or a shared dream like having a child, responsibilities must shift fast. Couples find themselves renegotiating roles in the middle of emotional upheaval. That is hard even on a good day. Situations that commonly bring couples into therapy Not all losses are the same, though they rhyme. I see couples after the death of a parent or child, miscarriage or stillbirth, infertility, medical trauma, the slow fade of a loved one to dementia, job loss, betrayals that feel like the death of trust, and geographic moves that sever a community. Pet loss, which many minimize, has a deep impact on daily routines and attachment. Traumatic losses including accidents, violence, or suicide often carry shock, intrusive images, and complicated blame. When the loss involves both partners directly, like a pregnancy loss, they may grieve in different time zones. If the loss is closer to one, like a sibling’s death, the other may feel unsure how much to lean in or back off. Cultural norms can also pull at the couple. In some families, public displays of grief are expected. In others, stoicism is the rule. Couples therapy creates a shared culture of mourning that respects both legacies. When to consider couples therapy Therapy is not required for every loss. Many couples do fine with their own supports. Seek professional help if you notice any of the following over the span of weeks, not just a bad day: You feel stuck in the same argument about how to grieve or how much to talk about the loss. Avoidance of reminders has taken over daily life, including intimacy or social contact, and neither of you can nudge the system forward. Intrusive memories, panic, or nightmares for either partner make the relationship feel unsafe or tense. Parenting or household logistics have broken down in ways that breed resentment rather than cooperation. Alcohol or substances have become a main coping tool, or either partner is withdrawing in ways that worry you. If there is active suicidality, self harm, domestic violence, or severe depression, a more intensive or specialized response may be needed before or alongside couples therapy. What couples therapy offers in grief and loss Couples therapy is not designed to eliminate grief. It aims to help two people mourn in a way that preserves attachment, rebuilds a sense of safety, and supports meaning making. In practice, that usually means three lines of work that braid together. The first is emotion and bond. Frameworks like Emotionally Focused Therapy help partners move from protective patterns, criticism or shutting down, to softer disclosures and accessible caregiving. Rather than “Why can’t you cry like I do,” a partner might learn to say, “When I do not see your tears, I imagine you did not love him like I did, and that terrifies me.” The other can then reveal the fear behind the stoicism, “I am afraid if I start I will not stop, so I keep the lid on.” This shift, simple on paper, changes everything. The second is coordination. Grief scrambles routines. Therapy helps couples sort tasks into the doable, the delayable, and the delegable, with kindness. We build realistic plans for sleep, meals, childcare, finances, and contact with extended family. Trying to decide the estate executor while deciding what to do with the clothes in the closet can flood a nervous system. Spacing and sequencing decisions protects both partners. The third is meaning. Loss rips at identity. Who are we now that the dream is gone. Good therapy does not impose answers. It invites rituals, storytelling, or acts of service that align with the couple’s values. Sometimes that is a weekly walk to a bench where they speak a few words to the person they lost. Sometimes it is agreeing to keep the person’s favorite recipe in the rotation. Sometimes it is choosing to stop the monthly memorial because it keeps both stuck in fresh agony. What matters is that the couple chooses on purpose. The first sessions, what to expect An initial consult usually runs 80 to 90 minutes. The therapist gathers history of the loss, prior bereavements, medical and mental health history, and the couple’s strengths. Expect straightforward questions about sleep, appetite, alcohol or substance use, and safety. If the loss was traumatic, there will be screening for symptoms consistent with acute stress reactions or PTSD. Good clinicians also ask about spiritual supports, cultural rituals, and extended family dynamics. It is standard, and wise, for the therapist to schedule one individual session with each partner early on. This protects privacy, allows for risk screening, and gives space to share sensitive information without worrying about burdening the other. Clear ground rules about what stays private and what is brought back to the couple, with consent, keep trust intact. From there, many couples benefit from weekly sessions for a month or two, then taper as needed. Some prefer a brief model, eight to twelve sessions focused on immediate stabilization and communication. Others engage in longer work to integrate multiple layers of loss, particularly after traumatic events. Specific techniques that help A good couples therapist is fluent in several approaches and chooses based on what fits the couple and the loss. Emotionally Focused Therapy focuses on the attachment dance. It slows arguments down, surfaces the underlying bids for connection, and helps each partner risk new moves. I often bring in simple tracking, asking partners to name in real time when they sense themselves bracing, when a wave of grief rises, or when they feel a flicker of relief at being seen. Gottman informed work can help with practical tools. Structured dialogues make hot topics more manageable, even if the topic is whether to sell the house. We might set a 20 minute window to discuss one decision with a gentle start up, a time out plan, and a clear stopping point. Grief shortens fuses. Boundaries are not indulgent, they are essential. When trauma is part of the picture, elements of trauma therapy come to the foreground. EMDR therapy and other PTSD therapy modalities are relevant, but in couples work they are used thoughtfully. Often, trauma reprocessing, including EMDR therapy, happens in individual sessions while the conjoint work focuses on stabilization, communication, and partner support. For example, a partner haunted by the image of a hospital code blue may do EMDR individually to reduce the intensity of the memory. In the couples sessions, we build a plan so the other partner knows what helps before and after an EMDR session, perhaps a quiet evening, a specific grounding exercise, and a check in the next morning. This keeps the healing process contained and collaborative. Narrative and meaning reconstruction approaches are valuable after losses that shatter worldviews. Partners are guided to tell the story of the loss at a tolerable pace, notice where the story sticks, and co author a chapter about who they are now. For some, faith frames are central. For others, a secular ethic of care leads the way. The therapist tracks whether the narrative moves, even in small steps, from chaos to coherence. Trauma informed mindfulness and body based skills can lower the ambient stress between sessions. Brief, repeatable practices help a couple regulate together. I often teach a 60 second shared breathing practice and a 2 minute orienting exercise that couples can use before hard conversations or bedtime. The goal is not to erase grief, it is to lower arousal enough to connect. Sex, touch, and the body after loss Intimacy often goes quiet after a death or major disappointment. Bodies can feel like traitors, particularly after pregnancy loss, infertility treatment, or medical trauma. Desire may dip for one partner and spike for the other who craves closeness. Both worry about doing it wrong. In session, we name this openly and create a period of intentional touch that is not sexual, a hand on a shoulder for three breaths, a back rub before sleep, feet touching while watching a show. Agreements around consent and pacing matter. Over time, the couple renegotiates what pleasure and closeness look like in this new season. For some, resuming sex raises panic or intrusive memories, especially after traumatic loss. Here, elements of PTSD therapy such as gradual exposure, cognitive restructuring, or EMDR in individual sessions may be paired with conjoint communication practice. The partner who is not triggered learns how to respond without pressure, how to help titrate sensations, and how to step back when needed. Parenting while grieving If there are children in the home, parents have two tasks, grieve together and shepherd the kids. These do not always align. A toddler’s needs do not pause because a parent is in a wave of sorrow. Couples therapy helps parents create a shared language with their children that is honest and developmentally appropriate, decide which rituals to keep, and coordinate breaks so each adult gets a window to fall apart in private. After the death of a child, the ground gives way. Research and clinical experience both suggest that couples carry a higher risk of distancing or separation in the years that follow. Therapy cannot erase that risk, but it can counter the drivers. We look for meaning collisions, one parent needing to speak the child’s name daily while the other needs quiet. We also track guilt and blame. Parents often torture themselves with counterfactuals. Naming these aloud, gently, in the presence of a partner who refuses to collude with punitive narratives, is part of the healing. The role of medication and adjunctive treatments Grief itself is not a disorder. Most people do not need medication. Still, depression and anxiety can sit on top of grief and make it heavier. In those cases, consultation with a physician or psychiatrist may be appropriate. Short term sleep supports can be lifesaving when insomnia is severe and starts to erode coping during the day. Ketamine therapy has gained attention for treatment resistant depression and is being studied for PTSD. Some clinicians are exploring its role in complicated grief, particularly when depressive symptoms have hardened and other treatments have stalled. If considered, it should be part of a well supervised plan with clear medical screening, thoughtful timing relative to couples sessions, and integration afterward. Not every couple or individual is a good candidate. A rushed or poorly integrated experience can destabilize an already fragile system. As with any adjunct, the question is whether it increases the couple’s capacity to connect and process the loss. If it does, it may have a place. If it becomes another way to avoid the hard work of feeling and speaking, it will not serve. Rituals that anchor mourning together Rituals give shape to the formlessness of grief. In couples work, I look for simple practices that fit the pair, not elaborate productions that add pressure. A weekly candle, a shared playlist reserved for drives to the cemetery, a small act of service on the person’s birthday, or a decision to write one letter a month for the first year. Some couples choose to set a boundary against daily rituals if they notice that constant memorialization keeps them raw. The guide is function, does the ritual help both partners feel connected to each other and to what was lost, or does it drain energy they need for living. One couple I worked with after an early pregnancy loss decided to plant herbs on their windowsill. Watering became a two minute check in, a question about how the day was landing on their bodies. Another couple whose adult son died in a climbing accident picked one trail they would walk every year on the anniversary. They did not talk much on the walk, but they did it together. Over time, that tradition made space for small stories to surface that would not have fit at home around the kids. Ground rules that keep conversations safe Use time limits for hard topics. Set a 15 minute timer, stop when it rings, debrief with a soothing activity. Speak from the first person and name one feeling at a time. “I feel scared when you leave the house without saying where you are going,” rather than global character judgments. Ask before entering memory territory that carries trauma, “Is now an okay time to talk about the hospital.” Agree on a pause signal and practice using it. The signal ends the conversation for now, not forever. Schedule grief on purpose at least once a week, a walk, a photo session, or a journal swap, so it does not erupt only during conflicts. These are not permanent rules, they are scaffolding that can be removed as the couple finds their footing. How grief and trauma intersect Traumatic grief has its own texture. Intrusions, flashbacks, and hyperarousal complicate mourning. One partner may be re experiencing the loss while the other is trying to manage daily life. Couples therapy rewires the system to handle both tasks. We build a shared map of triggers, internal and external, and we plan for how to ride out a spike together. The non traumatized partner learns not to interrogate or problem solve in the middle of a surge, to offer specific anchors like a glass of water or a reminder of the present date, and to save logistical discussions for a quieter nervous system. PTSD therapy components can be folded in at the edges. For instance, imaginal exposure is not a couples technique, but the idea of approaching hard memories in small doses with plenty of grounding carries over. Cognitive work, gently testing beliefs like “If I smile today I am betraying him,” is often best done in the couple’s presence because guilt and permission to live again are relational. Cultural and spiritual layers Grief lives in a https://landenpjsp809.wpsuo.com/trauma-therapy-after-breakups-and-divorce-rebuilding-self cultural frame. Expectations about mourning dress, time off work, funeral practices, and ongoing rituals vary widely. Intercultural couples sometimes feel torn between honoring a partner’s traditions and staying true to their own. Therapy should make space for that negotiation. The goal is not compromise for its own sake, it is integrity. A partner who understands why incense matters to the other is more likely to support it, even if the smell is distracting. A partner who understands why displays of emotion feel like a betrayal of a family rule may find a private place to cry together without demanding public weeping. Spiritual questions also surface. After a devastating loss, people often rework their relationship to faith, sometimes deepening, sometimes stepping back. Couples may not be on the same trajectory. Naming that openly can prevent a slow drift into misinterpretation, one reading the other’s shift as apathy rather than a sincere struggle. Progress, and how to tell if therapy is helping Early wins in couples therapy for grief are subtle, but clear on the inside. Partners report a little more room in the day, fewer blow ups over housekeeping, the ability to sit together without trying to fix each other. Sleep often improves. After a month or two, most couples can describe the loss without one partner shutting down completely. They still cry. They still have ambush days. The difference is that both know what to do when the wave hits. Therapists use simple markers. Can each partner identify the other’s primary coping style without contempt. Do they have two or three reliable rituals that neither resents. Do they repair after missteps within hours rather than days. Are substances less central. Has the sense of a shared future, even a small one, returned. Perfection is not the goal. Enough stability to carry the grief together is. How couples therapy fits with individual therapy Many couples benefit from a combination. Individual therapy makes room for private grief, identity work, or trauma processing such as EMDR therapy or other PTSD therapy modalities. Couples therapy focuses on the space between partners. The two should coordinate, even loosely. It helps to sign releases so providers can share high level themes without details. Simple alignment reduces mixed messages, like one therapist encouraging daily memorial rituals while the other recommends a pause. Some couples worry that individual work will fracture the bond. That can happen if a therapist takes sides or undermines the relationship. Choose clinicians who respect the couple as the primary attachment when that is healthy. If there is abuse, individual work with a safety plan comes first. A skilled couples therapist will be transparent about when conjoint sessions are contraindicated. Teletherapy, groups, and community Telehealth made couples work more accessible. For grief, being at home during sessions can be grounding, memories and objects are near, pets wander in. The downside is distraction and the lack of a contained space. If meeting online, plan for privacy, tissues within reach, and ten minutes after the session before returning to chores or childcare. Grief groups for couples can be powerful adjuncts, especially after specific losses like child death or pregnancy loss. Hearing from peers compresses isolation. Not everyone wants to share in a group, and that is fine. Community can also look like a monthly dinner with one other couple who understands, a faith based group, or a running club where conversation is optional. Costs, timeframes, and how to choose a therapist Grief often collides with finances, especially after medical bills or time off work. Session fees vary widely by region. Some clinics offer sliding scales or short term grants for bereavement. Ask directly. A classic course of couples therapy for grief might run 10 to 20 sessions over six months, with the option to return for booster sessions around anniversaries. When choosing a therapist, look for experience with bereavement and trauma, not just generic couples work. Ask how they handle situations where one partner has symptoms that fit a trauma diagnosis. Ask whether they collaborate with individual therapists or physicians if needed. A first meeting should leave you feeling seen, not judged, and with at least one concrete tool to try at home. A final word on permission Grief reorganizes a life, and that takes time. If your timelines do not match your partner’s, that is not proof you cannot make it together. It is proof you are two different people carrying the same heavy thing. Couples therapy helps you build a shared backpack, one that shifts weight when one of you stumbles. You will still miss what you lost. You can also learn, together, how to live around the holes and find moments of ease that do not betray the depth of your love. Canyon Passages Name: Canyon Passages Clinician: Kelly Chisholm, MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP; Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant Address: 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505 Address note: The official website also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507; please confirm the exact suite/location before visiting. Phone: (505) 303-0137 Website: https://www.canyonpassages.com/ Email: [email protected] Hours: Sunday: Closed Monday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Tuesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Thursday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Friday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Saturday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Open-location code / plus code: M355+GV Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA Coordinates: 35.6587872, -105.9403342 Map/listing URL: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv Embed iframe: Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages X: https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalBusiness", "@id": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/#localbusiness", "name": "Canyon Passages", "url": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/", "telephone": "+15053030137", "email": "[email protected]", "address": "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "1800 Old Pecos Trail", "addressLocality": "Santa Fe", "addressRegion": "NM", "postalCode": "87505", "addressCountry": "US" , "areaServed": [ "@type": "City", "name": "Santa Fe" , "@type": "City", "name": "Sedona" , "@type": "City", "name": "Pagosa Springs" , "@type": "State", "name": "New Mexico" , "@type": "State", "name": "Arizona" , "@type": "State", "name": "Colorado" ], "openingHoursSpecification": [ "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Monday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Tuesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Wednesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Thursday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Friday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Saturday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" ], "sameAs": [ "https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660", "https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/", "https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/", "https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages", "https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT", "https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages" ], "geo": "@type": "GeoCoordinates", "latitude": 35.6587872, "longitude": -105.9403342 , "hasMap": "https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv" 🤖 Explore this content with AI: 💬 ChatGPT 🔍 Perplexity 🤖 Claude 🔮 Google AI Mode 🐦 Grok Canyon Passages provides EMDR-focused psychotherapy and depth-oriented trauma support for individuals and couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Ketamine therapy can open a door. Integration is how you walk through it and keep going. Without thoughtful integration, the insights and symptom relief that often emerge in sessions tend to fade, or they fail to translate into the habits and relationships that make up daily life. With integration, the gains compound. The hard edges of depression, trauma, and anxiety soften, and you build the scaffolding to hold the changes. This is not about chasing a peak experience. It is about connecting what happens in a ketamine session with the work you do in the in-between time, using practical tools that match your history, your diagnosis, and your goals. That is where the results live. What integration means, in plain terms Integration means you intentionally reflect on, organize, and apply what arises during and after ketamine therapy. It also means working with the body as much as the mind, because ketamine shifts sensory processing, muscle tone, breathing, and the autonomic nervous system. For people in trauma therapy or PTSD therapy, this matters even more. The nervous system changes before the story changes. I think of integration as three linked tasks: First, translate. Capture the images, emotions, and intuitive knowledge from the session and put them into words, drawings, movements, or conversations that make sense to you later. Second, test. Try small behavior changes while brain networks are flexible. See what sticks. Iterate. Third, stabilize. Turn the useful parts into routines, boundaries, and relationship moves that can survive a bad week. The arc of a ketamine course and why timing matters Most medical clinics use a series model: six infusions or intramuscular injections over two to three weeks, then a taper or maintenance. Some prescribers use sublingual lozenges at home, once or twice a week for several weeks. Dose and route shape the experience. IV and IM tend to produce a deeper, shorter window, often 40 to 60 minutes. Lozenges are gentler and longer, sometimes 90 to 120 minutes. Esketamine nasal spray has its own cadence inside a supervised clinic. Across modalities, the brain tends to enter a window of increased plasticity for hours to days after dosing. Many patients describe a 24 to 72 hour stretch where rigid thoughts loosen and emotions move more freely. I treat that period as prime time for targeted therapy sessions, skills practice, and relationship work that would otherwise feel stuck. Before the first dose: setting up your runway A clean launch smooths the entire course. You do not need a perfect plan, but you do need basic guardrails and a front-row team. If you already work with a therapist in trauma therapy or PTSD therapy, ask them to coordinate with your ketamine provider. If you are in couples therapy, set expectations with your partner about what you may want after sessions, such as quiet, a walk, or a specific kind of check-in. Clarify your aims. Symptom reduction is not a north star. Try naming two or three changes you can observe: fewer days confined to bed, a 50 percent drop in panic attacks, eating two real meals a day, calling a friend once a week, less reactivity during conflict. These help you and your clinicians measure progress and adjust. Here is a concise pre-session checklist I use with patients: Confirm ride home, block off the rest of the day, and batch essential tasks the day before. Choose music and headphones, and set a simple intention in one sentence you can remember. Prepare a notebook, colored pens, or a voice memo app, and set reminders to journal later that day and the next morning. Eat a light, protein-forward meal 2 to 3 hours before, hydrate well, limit caffeine to your usual or less. Coordinate with your therapist to meet within 24 to 72 hours after the session if possible. Those steps remove friction. When the session ends, your next moves are already in motion. Inside the session: anchors, not agendas During https://juliusclqq214.overblog.fr/2026/05/ptsd-therapy-in-the-workplace-supporting-employee-well-being.html ketamine therapy, people often encounter vivid imagery, nonlinear narratives, and shifts in bodily sensations. You may feel you are moving through memories without words, that you are in a dream with the lights turned up, or that you are observing your life from a few degrees to the side. In my experience, planning an agenda backfires. Set an intention, then let the experience unfold. Anxiety tends to rise when people try to force the content. Do choose a few anchors. A breath pattern you can find again, a phrase like I can float above this and watch, or a hand on the chest to signal safety. Music can be an anchor too. I favor playlists that start slow, lift gently in the middle, and soften at the end. Tell your facilitator what kind of touch is or is not welcome, and agree on a brief check-in cue that does not yank you out of depth. If an upsetting memory surfaces, you do not need to solve it in real time. Note its shape and the body places it lands. Often the best move is to widen your attention, include neutral or pleasant sensations, and trust that the integration work after the session will metabolize the rest. The first 72 hours after: where integration accelerates Neuroplasticity is not a mystic concept. People consistently report that certain moves are easier right after a session: initiating a hard conversation, cooking dinner, trying a new route to work, saying no without apology. I encourage patients to schedule one or two small experiments in that window. Make time that first day to offload images and insights. Write the phrases exactly as they came. Draw shapes. Record a two minute voice memo. Some entries sound strange on paper, and that is fine. The point is to capture raw material before the cognitive editor trims it away. The next morning, read or listen back, then write a few sentences on what those fragments suggest about your values or choices. Move your body. Gentle, rhythmical movement helps knit the experience together. A 20 to 30 minute walk, light yoga, or a swim are better than high intensity training right away. People with trauma histories often find that a slow, paced exhale lowers arousal and increases clarity. Inhale through the nose for 3 to 4 counts, exhale for 6 to 8, repeat for three minutes. If that makes you lightheaded, shorten the exhale slightly and sit. Eat well and sleep on purpose. Ketamine can nudge appetite and sleep both ways. Aim for a protein source and complex carbohydrates within a few hours after the session, and commit to a fixed bedtime plus a wind-down routine that night. Screens late in the evening blunt next day gains more than people expect. I have watched many promising arcs get dulled by three nights of 1 a.m. Scrolling. Therapies that pair well, and how to time them EMDR therapy, Internal Family Systems, and somatic approaches often blend well with ketamine therapy, but the sequence matters. I rarely jump into EMDR reprocessing the same day as a deep dose. The brain is open, which is good, and also porous, which can flood the system. A better map is this: do EMDR preparation phases early in the ketamine course, such as resource installation and safe place work. Time active reprocessing for 24 to 72 hours post session, or, for some patients, after the induction series is complete, using content that surfaced. For trauma therapy more broadly, titration is the watchword. Many people report that ketamine loosens the grip of shame and fear. That makes it tempting to confront the worst memories head-on. I advise letting your body set the pace. Track heart rate, breath, temperature, and muscle tone as signals. If your jaw locks or your hands go numb, back up. Use orienting exercises, look around the room, name three blue objects, and return to present time before you re-engage. Couples therapy can benefit from the post-ketamine window as well, especially if one or both partners struggle with shutdown or explosive reactivity. Instead of processing a decade of hurts, use the window to practice micro-skills: repair attempts, time-outs that are honored, and short statements of need without mind reading. I have seen partners agree on a 10 minute daily debrief during a ketamine series and keep it going long after, because the early wins felt good. Working with PTSD: safety, pace, and permission to pause PTSD therapy inside a ketamine framework requires respect for thresholds. People vary widely. Some feel safe and expansive on a moderate dose. Others dissociate or become agitated. If you have a strong dissociative history, tell your prescriber and therapist, and consider a conservative start. You can raise the dose later. Have a plan for a surge of intrusive material. It might not come during the session. It can arrive that night, or two days later in the shower. When it does, name what is happening out loud if you can, remind yourself of the time and date, and get your hands and feet into sensation. Run cold water on your wrists for 20 seconds, step outside and feel the air on your skin, or hold an ice cube in a dish towel in your palm. Those are not cures. They are stabilizers that preserve the gains you are building. Trauma often warps expectations of help. People fear burdening others or being called dramatic. Before the series starts, identify two people who agree to be your support contacts and set limits that feel safe for both sides. A sample agreement looks like this: I may text you a thumbs-down emoji after a session. If I do, please call me in the next hour and stay on the line for 10 minutes while I walk or breathe. I will not dump content unless you say you have capacity, and I will let you know when I am back to baseline. Measuring change: simple metrics that cut through the noise Subjective reports are real, and numbers help decision making. You do not need a research battery. Two or three measures will do: A weekly PHQ-9 or QIDS score for depressive symptoms, same day each week. A weekly PCL-5 score if you carry a PTSD diagnosis. A simple behavior tracker: days you left home, minutes of movement, meals cooked, or nights with less than 2 drinks. Plot the points on a single page. Look for trends over 4 to 6 weeks, not day-to-day swings. I have watched people feel discouraged after a rough 48 hours while their four week graph shows a clear downward slope in symptoms and upward ticks in functional markers. When ketamine stirs the pot: handling difficult outcomes Not every session feels helpful. Some people meet emptiness. Others feel agitated, nauseated, or lonely afterward. Occasionally someone feels flat or disconnected for a few days. Treat these as data points, not verdicts. Adjustments can help, such as music changes, eye mask off rather than on, a smaller or slightly larger dose, a therapist present in the room, or a different day of the week if work stress compresses recovery time. Watch for red flags. If suicidal thoughts intensify or if panic attacks cluster, contact your provider the same day. Ask about dose adjustments, additional check-ins, or pausing the series. For rare individuals, ketamine can unmask hypomanic symptoms or exacerbate psychosis. Clear history taking and close clinical communication reduce that risk. Lifestyle bridges that hold the gains Gains that matter show up in routines. I like to focus on three bridges. Movement. Aim for 90 to 150 minutes a week of moderate movement, more by preference. On ketamine days, keep it gentle. On non-ketamine days, ask your body to do a little more than it wants to. The mood lift that follows is a reinforcement loop. Sleep. Set a consistent wake time seven days a week. Guard the hour before bed. If you wake at 3 a.m., get out of bed after 20 minutes, sit in low light, and read boring paper pages until you feel sleepy again. That one move prevents bed-from-becoming-anxiety-zone. Substances. Alcohol blunts gains for many patients. So do high THC products. I suggest a 30 day experiment of no alcohol during the induction series and the first maintenance month, then reevaluate with your therapist. If you use benzodiazepines, coordinate with your prescriber. They can reduce the intensity of ketamine sessions and sometimes the antidepressant effect, especially at higher doses. Medications and medical guardrails Most antidepressants, including SSRIs and SNRIs, can be continued during ketamine therapy. Many patients receive full benefit without adjusting those medications. Benzodiazepines, as noted, may dampen response when taken close to a session. Stimulant medications for ADHD can raise heart rate and blood pressure. Your prescriber may advise skipping the morning dose on infusion days. Uncontrolled hypertension, active substance use disorders, and a history of psychosis require careful evaluation and often a modified plan. Frequent, high dose, recreational ketamine use is associated with bladder irritation and ulcerative cystitis. Therapeutic dosing under medical supervision carries a much lower risk, but mention any urinary changes promptly. Nausea is common in the first few sessions. A light pre-session meal and antiemetic medication when appropriate usually manage it. Choosing your format and provider Clinic-based IV or IM sessions offer tight monitoring, quick dose adjustments, and staff support if anxiety spikes. At-home lozenges increase convenience and can be effective, but they place more weight on preparation, a safe environment, and therapist coordination. Group ketamine therapy, done in some clinics, can create powerful belonging effects, though it is not a fit for everyone, especially early in trauma work. Cost varies widely by region. A single infusion might range from a few hundred dollars to over one thousand, with six sessions often bundled. Esketamine, the FDA-approved nasal formulation, may be covered by insurance for treatment-resistant depression, but requires in-clinic dosing and observation. Ask providers about their integration support. Do they offer therapist collaboration, structured check-ins, or groups focused on ongoing skills? The medicine is part of the service, not the whole thing. Maintenance, spacing, and when to pause Many patients feel a strong lift during the induction series, followed by a softening several weeks later. Maintenance infusions or doses every 2 to 6 weeks can extend gains. There is no universal schedule. I prefer to lengthen the interval slowly, track function and symptoms, and let the person’s stated goals steer. If a maintenance schedule starts to creep earlier and earlier, it is time to ask what changed in life or therapy, rather than assume the solution is more medicine. There are seasons to pause. If life is throwing grenades and you cannot honor the recovery window, or if you are starting intensive EMDR therapy and flooding is a risk, hold the ketamine and resume when the context can support it. A composite case vignette Consider Dana, a 39-year-old nurse with recurrent depression and a history of childhood neglect. Therapy had helped with insight, but she still spent three or four days a week in bed after shifts. She started a six-session IM ketamine series. We tightened her sleep schedule, enlisted her sister as a support contact, and set two concrete targets: cook one meal at home twice a week and take a 15-minute walk after day shifts. After session one, she wrote a page of phrases that made little sense. The next morning, one line stood out: I am not the voice in my head. In therapy 48 hours later, she and her clinician mapped that line to moments on the unit when she spiraled after minor mistakes. They practiced a brief reset at the sink, hands under water, three slow exhales, say the line, then return to the next task. Over the next three weeks, she used the post-session windows to try her targets. By the fourth session, she was cooking once a week. By session six, twice. Her PHQ-9 dropped from 19 to 8 over a month. She kept maintenance sessions every four weeks for three months, then every six weeks, while continuing weekly therapy. Not a miracle, but measurable and durable change. A workable week during an infusion series Here is a simple, repeatable rhythm that many patients adapt. Day 0, evening before: pack your bag, confirm ride, prep journal space, pick music, choose intention. Day 1, session day: light meal 2 to 3 hours before, session during the day, short walk after, voice memo before bed. Day 2: read notes, 45 to 60 minute therapy visit if scheduled, gentle movement, one small values-based action. Day 3: another small action, brief check-in with support person, early bedtime, no alcohol. Day 4 or 5: review symptom and behavior tracker, adjust plan with therapist or provider, and plan the next session. Treat that as scaffolding. Edit it to fit your work hours, family load, and nervous system. How couples can harness the window If one partner is undergoing ketamine therapy, agree on a few integration rituals. A shared walk the evening after a session, with five minutes of quiet before speaking. A short, predictable question set the next day, like What felt new, what felt hard, what do you want tomorrow? In ongoing couples therapy, use the post-ketamine days to practice time-outs correctly. That means announcing the time-out, agreeing on a return time within 30 minutes, and naming one thing you will do to self-soothe. The goal is not to dissect the session content. It is to reinforce skills while the nervous system is more pliable. When both partners are doing ketamine therapy, stagger sessions by at least a day. That preserves a steady base at home and lowers the chance of concurrent dysregulation. Some couples set a rule not to revise major life decisions in the 24 hours after a session. Good ideas survive the waiting period. Common mistakes and how to avoid them Three patterns trip people up. First, overbooking. The brain may feel clear after a session, but executive function can be wobbly. Keep the schedule light. Second, skipping the therapy piece. Ketamine can shift mood quickly, which tempts people to drop the hard, slow work. The gains last longer when someone helps you connect dots and change behavior. Third, ignoring the body. Symptoms often reassemble when all the integration happens in the head. Prioritize movement, breath, and sensory anchors. If you also do EMDR or other trauma modalities Coordinate calendars. Many clinicians find it useful to schedule EMDR on day two or three after a ketamine session for clients who have established stabilization skills. For those early in trauma therapy, spend the ketamine window on resourcing, not reprocessing. Use the material that arises from ketamine to guide future target selection. If strong somatic memories surface in ketamine, consider adding a few sessions of somatic therapy to help integrate those sensations without needing to revisit explicit narrative every time. Final thoughts from the chair The medicine breaks the ice. Your daily choices steer the ship. In my practice, the people who get the most from ketamine therapy talk to their teams, they keep their appointments, they anchor the body, they make one or two small experiments each week, and they forgive themselves when a day goes sideways. They use the windows to practice, not to perfect. That sounds ordinary. In mental health, ordinary and repeatable often beats extraordinary and fragile. If you are considering ketamine therapy, find a prescriber who welcomes collaboration and a therapist who understands integration. If you already started and feel lost between sessions, it is not too late to add structure. Pick an anchor, write two sentences after your next dose, move your body, and schedule a therapy visit within 24 to 72 hours. Those simple moves do more than people expect, and they add up. Canyon Passages Name: Canyon Passages Clinician: Kelly Chisholm, MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP; Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant Address: 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505 Address note: The official website also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507; please confirm the exact suite/location before visiting. Phone: (505) 303-0137 Website: https://www.canyonpassages.com/ Email: [email protected] Hours: Sunday: Closed Monday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Tuesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Thursday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Friday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Saturday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Open-location code / plus code: M355+GV Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA Coordinates: 35.6587872, -105.9403342 Map/listing URL: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv Embed iframe: Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages X: https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalBusiness", "@id": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/#localbusiness", "name": "Canyon Passages", "url": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/", "telephone": "+15053030137", "email": "[email protected]", "address": "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "1800 Old Pecos Trail", "addressLocality": "Santa Fe", "addressRegion": "NM", "postalCode": "87505", "addressCountry": "US" , "areaServed": [ "@type": "City", "name": "Santa Fe" , "@type": "City", "name": "Sedona" , "@type": "City", "name": "Pagosa Springs" , "@type": "State", "name": "New Mexico" , "@type": "State", "name": "Arizona" , "@type": "State", "name": "Colorado" ], "openingHoursSpecification": [ "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Monday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Tuesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Wednesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Thursday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Friday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Saturday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" ], "sameAs": [ "https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660", "https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/", "https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/", "https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages", "https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT", "https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages" ], "geo": "@type": "GeoCoordinates", "latitude": 35.6587872, "longitude": -105.9403342 , "hasMap": "https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv" 🤖 Explore this content with AI: 💬 ChatGPT 🔍 Perplexity 🤖 Claude 🔮 Google AI Mode 🐦 Grok Canyon Passages provides EMDR-focused psychotherapy and depth-oriented trauma support for individuals and couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Military families move on a timetable the rest of the world does not keep. Orders arrive. Goodbyes are brief. Homecomings are emotional but complicated. If you are in a military partnership, you already know that love, loyalty, and grit are not always enough to carry a relationship through repeated separations, high operational tempo, and the quiet aftershock of combat or training injuries. Couples therapy can help, but only if it respects the pace and pressures of military life. The work is not abstract. It is about building a shared system that bends, then recovers. The shifting ground a military couple stands on A stateside assignment can feel predictable until trainings stack, overnight duties multiply, or a unit tasking shows up three weeks early. Then there are PCS moves that read like logistical puzzles, schools that change midyear, and the sense of being a newcomer again just when you found your footing. It is not only the service member who serves. The spouse or partner often becomes the continuity officer for the family, translating new rules, budgets, and childcare plans wherever the flag lands. Stress enters in layers. Distance strains connection, even in solid partnerships. Reunions look picture perfect from the outside, but inside the home you have two people whose daily routines no longer match. If there are children, the military parent can feel like a visitor at first, and the at-home parent may resist giving up the system that kept everyone afloat. Each person carries a story from the months apart, and those stories do not always stitch neatly together. Why stress shows up in pairs In therapy, we pay attention to how stress becomes contagious. A sharp tone in one partner echoes as withdrawal in the other. A late text from the service member during a field exercise lands as abandonment to the spouse holding down the household. That spouse’s intensity on the phone can feel like a firefight to someone who has been managing arousal levels to get through the day. Small ruptures escalate when both nervous systems are already on high alert. I often explain it in simple terms. The military trains for predictable responses under pressure. Marriages do not. No one hands out laminated cards on what to say when your partner’s first night back is too loud or too quiet, or how to ask for sex when your body remembers both closeness and fear. https://telegra.ph/Trauma-Therapy-for-Survivors-of-Abuse-Reclaiming-Safety-05-27 Couples therapy builds those cards together. You create shared drills that make sense for your family, not generic advice detached from the realities of watch bills, duty stations, or the immediacy of deployment. Patterns I see most often Communication problems in military families do not look unique at first glance, but the context changes everything. A classic pursuer-distancer dynamic shows up when the at-home partner tries hard to connect, while the service member needs solitude to reset. What matters is not judging either response, but organizing the pattern so you can interrupt it. Role renegotiation takes center stage after homecoming. If the spouse has been the default parent, handing that role back does not happen overnight. A common mistake is trying to “fix it in one weekend.” That pace almost always backfires. You need a phased plan. Financial uncertainty shows up during transitions, particularly for Guard and Reserve families toggling between civilian paychecks and activation. Money is not just math. It is power, safety, and permission. Naming that in therapy prevents simmering resentment. Finally, trauma exposure shapes how people think, sleep, and connect. Not every service member returns with obvious PTSD symptoms, but many carry specific triggers or moral wounds that surface months later. Sometimes the spouse is the one with trauma from medical emergencies during deployment, a difficult birth without a partner present, or the chronic stress of making every decision solo. Good couples therapy respects that trauma is a third presence in the room, not a private problem one person has to “handle” alone. What works in couples therapy for military families There is no single method that fits everyone, but a few approaches anchor the work. Emotionally focused therapy helps partners identify core feelings beneath the surface fight about dishes or screen time. This model pairs well with the military emphasis on team cohesion. When a couple sees that protest is really a bid for connection, reactivity softens. Behavioral strategies also matter. Gottman-informed exercises, like stress-reducing conversations, give structure when open-ended dialogue feels risky. Communication frameworks, including speaker-listener techniques, can be translated into short check-ins that fit around duty schedules. For many, trauma therapy runs in parallel with couples sessions. If someone is wrestling with flashbacks, hypervigilance, or moral injury, individual PTSD therapy can lower the temperature enough that couples work becomes more effective. EMDR therapy has strong evidence for reducing trauma symptoms. In practice, I coordinate with the individual therapist so the couples plan and the trauma plan support one another. For couples facing severe, treatment-resistant depression or PTSD, ketamine therapy sometimes enters the conversation as a medical intervention that can accelerate relief. It is not a relationship treatment, but when the fog lifts for one partner, couples therapy often gains traction. This choice comes with trade-offs and must be managed by qualified medical providers with careful screening, especially for those with TBI or unstable substance use. Timing therapy to the deployment cycle helps. Pre-deployment sessions focus on contingency planning and connection rituals. During deployment we emphasize maintaining thin threads of contact that do not overload anyone’s bandwidth. After homecoming, we shift to pacing intimacy, renegotiating roles, and addressing trauma cues before they turn into distance. A small checklist for the deployment cycle Pre-deployment: Write down three concrete requests you have of each other for the first two weeks apart, and for the first two weeks home. During deployment: Agree on a predictable window for communication, even if short, and a backup plan for delayed replies. Homecoming week: Keep expectations light, schedule one-on-one time, and avoid big family gatherings for the first 48 to 72 hours if possible. Reintegration month: Revisit household roles in writing, then adjust once a week rather than in the heat of the moment. First three months: Schedule two therapy check-ins, even if things feel good, to prevent drift. These are not magic bullets. They are friction reducers. Couples who follow a simple map recover faster from inevitable bumps. Using the language of the job to improve the marriage Borrowing familiar frameworks often helps. Many service members understand mission briefs and after-action reviews. I encourage couples to write what we call a “marriage brief” for key periods like the month before deployment or the first thirty days after return. It includes purpose, roles, communication protocols, and contingency plans. Then, once a week, you run a five-minute after-action review: what went well, what was hard, what we will do differently next time. Keep it light, not punitive. The goal is to learn, not to win. The same logic applies to stress. If you both can identify yellow, orange, and red zones for your nervous systems, you can match the size of your conversation to your current capacity. A yellow-zone night might handle logistics. A red-zone night might only handle a walk and a promise to revisit hard topics tomorrow. Reconnecting after deployment without stepping on land mines Sex and affection often carry the most hope and the most fear. It is common for one partner to want immediate closeness while the other needs time to feel present in their own body. Start with sensory connection that does not require talk. Cook something familiar together. Share a shower and agree that it is just a shower. Sleep side by side without the pressure to perform. These are not rules, just on-ramps. Sound also matters. Routine household noises can be jarring in the first week, especially for those just home from high-threat environments. Consider a quiet reentry plan: dimmer lights at night, a pause on loud TV, kids briefed to ease into questions. It respects the nervous system and reduces avoidable fights. When trauma is in the room PTSD does not sit still. It shows up as irritability that feels personal, scan-the-perimeter behaviors that read as disinterest, or numbing that feels like rejection. A spouse may interpret flat affect as a lack of love when it is actually a protective shield. In couples therapy, we translate those signals. We also set safety protocols. If nightmares lead to startled awakenings, both partners need a plan. If driving at night produces flashbacks, the family schedule adjusts for a bit. EMDR therapy can reduce the intensity of trauma memories and related cues. When the person with trauma works on specific targets, couples sessions benefit because the fight becomes smaller and less global. I often prepare the partner for what EMDR phases look like so they are not blindsided by temporary emotional waves. External stabilization matters too. Regular sleep, reduced alcohol, and consistent exercise support both trauma recovery and relationship stability. Moral injury complicates the picture. A service member might question their own worth or struggle with guilt. No protocol untangles that overnight. Couples therapy helps the partner hold space without absorbing the burden. The balance is delicate: show empathy, keep boundaries, do not become the therapist for your spouse. Complications that change the playbook Traumatic brain injury can alter processing speed, impulse control, and memory. If your partner repeats questions or misses what you said, you might assume they are not listening. The brain may simply be working harder. In those cases, therapy integrates cognitive strategies: shorter sentences, visual cues, and patience around word retrieval. Chronic pain adds another layer. Touch becomes fraught when hugs hurt. A physical therapist or pain specialist should be part of the team, not an afterthought. Substance use sometimes creeps in as a coping strategy. Alcohol, in particular, can mask anxiety or sleep problems but tends to intensify irritability and conflict. Couples therapy does not replace substance use treatment. If drinking or drug use sits at the center of fights, we pause and bring in specialized care. Trying to repair communication while one partner is intoxicated most nights is like patching a roof in the rain. Privacy, telehealth, and choosing where to talk Some families prefer to avoid on-base services, worried about privacy or career impact. Policies vary, and many commands support mental health care, but perception matters. Civilian providers who accept TRICARE can bridge that gap. Telehealth has opened access for those stationed far from urban centers or juggling unpredictable schedules. I have run effective 50-minute video sessions from hotel rooms, cars parked on quiet streets, and time zones ten hours apart. The key is protecting time and minimizing interruptions just like you would for a flight brief. Culture matters: rank, stoicism, and silence Military culture values composure. That strength can become a blockade in therapy if it translates to emotional lockdown. A Sergeant First Class may be brilliant at leading soldiers but uncertain how to admit fear at the kitchen table. Partners can misread that as indifference. In therapy, I normalize emotion as data, not weakness, and tie it to operational goals: if we want a resilient family system, we need accurate information. Stoicism has a place, just not at the cost of connection. Rank also affects couples indirectly. The service member carries authority at work, then comes home to a spouse who has run the household with full command. Shifting gears takes practice. Dual-military couples often negotiate whose mission takes priority this month and who handles child care during overlapping trainings. Those conversations are easier when you acknowledge that there will be seasons of imbalance, and you track them over time to make sure the ledger does not calcify into resentment. Kids and the wider family system Children absorb separation and reunion in age-specific ways. Toddlers may cling or regress. School-age kids might act out. Teens can appear aloof while quietly worrying. Bringing a child into one or two sessions can help everyone align. Grandparents or extended family who stepped in during deployment may also need a graceful off-ramp. Clarity prevents turf wars. A written plan that names who handles bedtime, homework, and discipline in the first month back keeps adults from contradicting each other in front of kids. Case snapshots from the field A Marine and his spouse arrived three weeks after homecoming. He felt criticized no matter what he did. She felt invisible because he went straight to the garage each evening. In session, we mapped their pattern. He used the garage to decompress. She saw it as avoidance. We tried a 20-minute decompression rule with a visible timer, followed by a five-minute reconnection ritual: two questions each, no problem-solving. Within a month, fights dropped by half. Nothing about their love changed. The order of operations did. Another couple, a dual-military pair with a toddler, faced overlapping schools. Logistics were impossible. Their fights centered on who cared more. We reframed the problem as a capacity question. They created a mission brief that assigned high-priority tasks by week, not by identity. They also found daycare backup through a neighbor on the same schedule. The marriage stress fell once the operating system matched reality. A third couple came in with trauma front and center. The service member had road-related triggers and nightmares. The spouse felt like a bystander to a storm. We coordinated individual PTSD therapy with EMDR for the service member and added weekly couples sessions for fifteen minutes of structured dialogue, followed by nonverbal connection like walking the dog. For two months, that modest plan was enough to keep them connected while the trauma work progressed. Later we expanded into deeper intimacy work. Getting started without getting overwhelmed Clarify your goals for therapy in one or two sentences each, written separately, then compare. Choose a format that fits your life now, not your ideal: in-person if feasible, telehealth if distance or childcare gets in the way. Vet therapists for familiarity with military culture and training in couples therapy and trauma therapy; ask about experience with PTSD therapy and EMDR therapy if relevant. Schedule at least four sessions before judging fit, and set a review point at session six to adjust goals. Protect a small post-session window for decompression, even if it is a ten-minute walk or quiet drive. These steps build early momentum and reduce the chance of quitting before you see movement. Finding the right therapist and support network Look for clinicians who understand military timelines and confidentiality concerns. Many strong civilian therapists accept TRICARE. Some VA facilities offer couples services, though access varies by location. Ask potential therapists about their approach: do they integrate emotion-focused work with practical skills, can they coordinate with individual trauma treatment, are they comfortable discussing sensitive topics like intimacy after injury or ketamine therapy as a medical option when appropriate. Peer support complements therapy. Unit family readiness groups, online communities tailored to your branch, and vetted nonprofit organizations can reduce isolation. Choose groups that trade information and empathy, not rumor or pressure. If a space shames you for seeking help, step out. Stigma still exists, but it shrinks when couples speak plainly about what they need. Measuring progress without rushing it Most couples see early signs within four to six sessions: fewer blowups, more direct requests, slightly warmer evenings. Deep repairs take longer, often three to six months for chronic patterns, particularly when trauma symptoms are active. Progress is not linear. A late-night alert, a difficult training cycle, or a news event can shake the system. What matters is recovery speed. Do you reconnect in hours, not days. Do your fights feel less catastrophic. Are you using your shared language in the moment, not just nodding in session. Data helps. Keep a brief log of weekly wins and frictions. Rate the week on a zero to ten connection scale and jot what helped. It is not homework for the therapist. It is a dashboard for you. Edge cases that deserve specific attention Guard and Reserve families live in two worlds. When activation ends, reintegration back into civilian work can be jarring, and the community may not understand why noise at a Fourth of July event sends your partner home early. Couples therapy should include education for the civilian circle when possible and practical boundary setting when it is not. Same-sex military couples sometimes carry the weight of past concealment or current microaggressions. Therapy needs to be an affirming environment that recognizes those stressors and does not ask the couple to educate the therapist. For families with ongoing legal or administrative processes, such as medical boards or security clearance reviews, stress multiplies. Plan shorter, more frequent sessions during high-uncertainty windows. That pacing keeps the relationship from slipping to the bottom of the to-do list. When higher-level care is needed If there is active suicidality, domestic violence, or uncontrolled substance use, standard couples therapy is not the right entry point. Safety comes first. We connect to crisis resources, medical evaluation, or specialized programs. Some cases require individual stabilization before, or instead of, joint sessions. That is not a failure of the relationship. It is the right tool for the job. When severe depression or PTSD blocks engagement, medical interventions like ketamine therapy may be discussed by the prescribing team. If considered, the couple should be briefed on what to expect in the days after treatments and how to support rest, nutrition, and follow-up care. Any medication or procedure should slot into a coherent plan, not float alone. A closing thought grounded in practice Military couples live with constant motion. Stability, when it appears, is often borrowed time. Therapy does not stop the orders or the flights. It gives you a way to meet them together. The habits you build, from five-minute after-action reviews to written role resets, turn separation and reunion from chaotic swings into manageable cycles. Trauma can heal. Intimacy can return. Arguments can become information, not injuries. The change is rarely dramatic in one session. It is steady, sometimes quiet, and visible in the way you look at each other on a Wednesday night after a long day. That is the work, and it is worth doing. Canyon Passages Name: Canyon Passages Clinician: Kelly Chisholm, MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP; Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant Address: 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505 Address note: The official website also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507; please confirm the exact suite/location before visiting. Phone: (505) 303-0137 Website: https://www.canyonpassages.com/ Email: [email protected] Hours: Sunday: Closed Monday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Tuesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Thursday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Friday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Saturday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Open-location code / plus code: M355+GV Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA Coordinates: 35.6587872, -105.9403342 Map/listing URL: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv Embed iframe: Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages X: https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalBusiness", "@id": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/#localbusiness", "name": "Canyon Passages", "url": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/", "telephone": "+15053030137", "email": "[email protected]", "address": "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "1800 Old Pecos Trail", "addressLocality": "Santa Fe", "addressRegion": "NM", "postalCode": "87505", "addressCountry": "US" , "areaServed": [ "@type": "City", "name": "Santa Fe" , "@type": "City", "name": "Sedona" , "@type": "City", "name": "Pagosa Springs" , "@type": "State", "name": "New Mexico" , "@type": "State", "name": "Arizona" , "@type": "State", "name": "Colorado" ], "openingHoursSpecification": [ "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Monday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Tuesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Wednesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Thursday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Friday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Saturday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" ], "sameAs": [ "https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660", "https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/", "https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/", "https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages", "https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT", "https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages" ], "geo": "@type": "GeoCoordinates", "latitude": 35.6587872, "longitude": -105.9403342 , "hasMap": "https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv" 🤖 Explore this content with AI: 💬 ChatGPT 🔍 Perplexity 🤖 Claude 🔮 Google AI Mode 🐦 Grok Canyon Passages provides EMDR-focused psychotherapy and depth-oriented trauma support for individuals and couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.

Survivors of trauma often describe a nervous system that never lets them off duty. Small noises feel like alarms. Sleep slices into fragments. A casual touch can flood the body with heat and panic. Traditional PTSD therapy gives structure and tools for this terrain, yet many people find the missing piece is learning how to relate to sensations and thoughts in real time without getting yanked under. That is where mindfulness belongs, not as a spiritual veneer, but as a trainable skill that complements trauma therapy and, with care, improves outcomes. What mindfulness actually trains in the context of trauma The word has become a catchall, which makes it easy to dismiss. In clinical work, mindfulness means two specific abilities. First, sustained attention to a chosen anchor such as the breath, sound, or the feeling of the feet on the floor. Second, nonjudgmental recognition of mental events as mental events, with the capacity to let them be without immediate reaction. Those two core skills directly address three PTSD mechanisms that drive suffering. Hyperarousal narrows the window of tolerance. Physiology swings between fight, flight, or freeze, and even minor cues can trigger a flood of sympathetic activation. Short, repeated attentional anchors, paired with lengthened exhales, help the autonomic system learn it can step down safely. Avoidance habits starve the brain of corrective learning. Mindfulness gives a micro-dose exposure pathway, where sensing a fragment of fear without avoidance begins to update predictions. Intrusive memories and negative appraisals organize attention around threat. Labeling thoughts and images as thoughts and images inserts a gap, small at first, that breaks the chain of automatic belief and behavior. No single practice works for everyone. Some people discover that focusing on the breath spikes panic. Others find body scans put them to sleep or tip them toward dissociation. The point is not to force a standard script. The point is to help people track their arousal, pick anchors that feel safe enough, and build these skills in one or two minute increments, then lengthen as capacity grows. How mindfulness weaves into evidence-based PTSD therapy Trauma therapy is an umbrella term. Under it live several well studied approaches, each with its own logic. Mindfulness sits well with many of them when you are precise about timing and intention. When I use EMDR therapy with clients, I treat mindfulness as the scaffolding before and the container after. Before we touch trauma material, we practice dual attention with https://www.canyonpassages.com/trauma-therapy neutral or mildly positive imagery. People learn to track a body sensation while also noticing a neutral sound in the room, shifting back and forth. That dual attention skill becomes a rehearsal for the bilateral stimulation EMDR uses. After processing, brief breathing practices and orienting to the present help the nervous system settle, so that the re-consolidation work has a quieter physiological backdrop. In cognitive processing therapy or trauma focused CBT, cognitive restructuring can sound like an argument with one’s own mind. Mindfulness softens that tug of war. When a client labels a thought like, I am not safe with the prefix, my mind is producing the thought that…, it creates a non-combative frame that still allows us to examine accuracy and usefulness. Sessions often flow from a two minute grounding, into cognitive worksheets, back into a short check-in on arousal. On the acceptance and commitment therapy side, the skill of defusion lives inside mindfulness. Exercises like thank your mind for the thought teach people to hold beliefs lightly without minimizing genuine danger. For someone whose trauma occurred in an ongoing unsafe environment, we pair this with real-world safety planning. Calm does not replace locks on doors. Dialectical behavior therapy contributes distress tolerance skills that function as emergency mindfulness. Ice water on the face, paced breathing with a 1 to 2 inhale to exhale ratio, and intense short bursts of muscle activation are not meditation, but they are mindful in that they target state shifts cleanly. Many clients need those before they can sit quietly. A composite story from the therapy room Take “M,” a 36 year old paramedic who came to PTSD therapy after eight years in the field and two near misses. Nightmares, short fuse with his partner, and a body that startled at garage doors clanging were daily life. We started with psychoeducation and a few sessions of EMDR therapy to process a particular call that dominated his sleep. The first time he tried to follow his breath in session, his chest locked and his heart pounded. We pivoted. His safe anchor became the feeling of his uniform pants on his thighs and the hum of the clinic’s air vent. Twenty seconds at a time, repeated ten times a day. Two weeks later, he noticed something small at home. Mid-argument with his partner about a missed dinner, he felt the surge that usually launched a sarcastic jab, and he caught the moment. He named it in his head, surge, and stared at the backsplash tile for just long enough to drop his voice a notch. That was not a grand meditation. That was mindfulness doing surgical work on a hair-trigger habit. Over months, as his window of tolerance widened, we added three minute breath practices and, eventually, body scans. He still avoided focusing on his chest, so we respected that and used lower legs and hands as anchors. His nightmare frequency dropped from nightly to twice per week. His PCL-5 score fell by more than 10 points, a meaningful change in clinical practice. The evidence, without hype Meta-analyses of mindfulness-based interventions for PTSD show modest to moderate symptom reductions compared to waitlist or supportive therapy controls. Effect sizes often fall in the 0.4 to 0.6 range for core symptoms like intrusions and hyperarousal, with larger gains in sleep and mood for some subgroups. Studies vary in quality. More rigorous designs tend to show smaller, but still real, benefits. Most importantly, mindfulness alone rarely outperforms trauma-focused work that includes exposure or memory processing. Where it shines is as an adjunct, boosting emotional regulation and adherence, and reducing dropouts for people who feel overwhelmed by standard protocols. There are caveats. A minority of participants report increased distress during meditation, especially at the beginning. Dissociation can worsen if practices are too long or too inwardly focused. That does not argue against mindfulness. It argues for titration, external anchors, and experienced guidance. Safety first, especially for complex trauma Complex PTSD, sustained childhood abuse, or trauma layered on neurodiversity requires extra care. Dissociation, shame spirals, and somatic flashbacks can make internal focus feel like a trap. In those cases, we build orientation practices first. Eyes open, feet on the floor, a visual scan of the room naming five blue objects, then five warm objects. We use external sounds or gentle movement as anchors instead of the breath. Yoga, if used, prioritizes slow predictable sequences and avoids poses that compress the chest or mimic restraint. People sometimes worry that mindfulness blunts appropriate anger or dulls cultural expressions of pain. In my experience, the opposite is possible when taught well. Nonjudgmental awareness lets anger show up cleanly as data, not as an indiscriminate spray. That can be lifesaving in environments where assertive boundary setting has to be fast and clear. Mindfulness inside couples therapy for trauma recovery Trauma rarely isolates itself within one person. Partners live with the ripples, and sometimes with their own trauma histories. Couples therapy gains traction when both people learn the same grounding language and agree to skillful pauses. A thirty second mutual check-in, hands on knees, eyes open, three slow exhales, can shift a fight from escalation to problem solving. I ask couples to practice these pauses during easy moments so that they become second nature under stress. Mindfulness also supports repair. After an argument, each partner takes two minutes to notice what their body is doing before they speak. Then they share observations in simple language. My chest is tight, my jaw hurts, my stomach is hot. No interpretations, no accusations. It sounds clinical, but it humanizes both people fast. The felt sense becomes common ground. That shared practice sits alongside more traditional couples therapy work on communication, boundaries, and attachment needs. Where ketamine therapy and mindfulness meet, and where they should not Ketamine therapy can create a window in which entrenched patterns loosen and the nervous system feels less locked. Some clinics add brief mindfulness coaching to help patients navigate the session and integrate insights. Done thoughtfully, this makes sense. Noticing shifts in breath, labeling images without grasping, and using gentle anchors can reduce anxiety during dosing and orient people back to their bodies afterward. Risks appear when mindfulness is used to bypass or over-interpret altered states. A ketamine session is not a shortcut to awakening. It is a neurobiological intervention that can lower avoidance enough to allow memory processing and value-driven behavior change. Mindfulness helps make meaning from the experience, but the heavy lifting still happens over weeks in ordinary life. Coordination with ongoing PTSD therapy matters. If someone is actively dissociative or struggles with psychosis, clinicians should assess carefully before mixing these modalities. Medical oversight, clear preparation, and a written integration plan support safety. Building a personal practice that respects your nervous system The best practices fit into the life you actually lead. A firefighter on 24 hour shifts needs a different rhythm than a teacher with a quiet early morning. The goal is consistency without heroics. A workable plan for the first month might look like this. Wake up and do a 90 second anchor practice with an external focus like sounds or the coolness of air on the nostrils. Midday, a two minute paced breathing session with longer exhales. Before bed, a three to five minute body scan that avoids zones that trigger flashbacks. Once a week, join a short group class or a therapist-guided session to adjust technique. If flashbacks are frequent, practice with eyes open. If breath focus spikes panic, shift to touch, such as holding a cool mug, or to sight, such as tracing a picture frame with your eyes. Keep posture comfortable. Sitting is fine. Lying down is fine if you do not fall asleep immediately. Perfection is not the target. Capacity is. A short drill for when symptoms surge Try the following when you notice your system racing, such as after a loud noise or a difficult conversation. Name five details you can see right now, slowly and out loud if you can. Choose colors, shapes, or edges. Then name four distinct sounds, three surfaces you can touch, two scents if any, and one taste or the absence of it. Place one palm on your thigh. Inhale through the nose for about four seconds, exhale through pursed lips for about eight. Repeat six to eight breaths. If lightheaded, shorten the exhale. Label what is present in simple words. Heart fast, warmth in chest, thought of danger, urge to run. No stories. Just labels. Ask one orienting question. What tells me I am safe enough in this exact second, if I am? Answer with a real cue, like the locked door, the bright daylight, or a trusted person nearby. Decide the next tiny action. Sip water, text your therapist, step outside, or return to the task for two minutes then reassess. Use this drill as often as needed. Over time, the sequence becomes automatic and shortens on its own. Working with a therapist who knows both territories A therapist fluent in PTSD therapy and mindfulness can save you months of trial and error. In an intake, ask about their training. Do they have formal mindfulness training beyond a casual personal practice. Have they led groups for trauma survivors. How do they modify practices for dissociation. If they use EMDR therapy, how do they integrate mindfulness into preparation and closure. If medications are part of your plan, ask how they coordinate with prescribers. Prazosin for nightmares, SSRIs, or off label agents may change sleep, energy, or concentration, all of which influence when and how to practice. Expect the therapist to measure, not just hope. Brief standardized tools like the PCL-5 or the PHQ-9 every four to six sessions help track change. Simple behavioral markers matter too. How many nights of nightmares per week. How often do you leave the grocery store mid-aisle. How many arguments escalate past a chosen volume. Data keeps everyone honest and allows timely course correction. Cultural and personal fit matters more than brand names Mindfulness came to the West from Buddhist traditions, but clinical mindfulness does not require belief or religious practice. People from devout backgrounds sometimes worry about conflict with their faith. Clarify that you are training attention and nonjudgment, not adopting a worldview. Others associate mindfulness with a specific aesthetic that feels alien. You can listen to ocean waves, to hip hop, to silence. You can meditate in a recliner with a dog snoring nearby. The only non-negotiables are honesty about your reactions and willingness to adjust the method. Common pitfalls and how to sidestep them Two errors show up repeatedly. First, pushing duration over quality. A ten minute session spent battling mounting panic can sensitize the system. A ninety second high quality session, repeated six times across the day, quietly rewires patterns. Second, using mindfulness to suppress or judge feelings. I should be calm by now is the opposite of mindfulness. Anger, grief, and fear are welcome data. The practice is to feel them without taking dictation from them. There is also the risk of spiritual bypassing, especially after profound experiences in therapy or with ketamine therapy. If you catch yourself explaining away a boundary violation because you are trying to be above it, that is a red flag. Bring it to therapy. Mindfulness supports clearer boundaries, not fewer. What progress looks like in the real world People often expect fireworks. Progress in this work tends to show up as small, repeatable wins. The first time you notice a body cue and shift course by a degree. The week you sleep five hours in a row twice. The fight that takes ten minutes to repair instead of a full day. A month with two nightmares instead of eight. A walk past the alley that used to force you to cross the street. None of these erase trauma. All of them reclaim life. I tell clients to watch for spillover effects. Better interoception can improve hydration and hunger cues. Slower breathing can lower blood pressure a notch or two. Less hypervigilance can improve driving, parenting, and how you sit in a chair at work. Couples therapy often accelerates these changes, because both people hold each other accountable to simple, agreed upon practices. Bringing it all together without rushing it The combination of PTSD therapy and mindfulness works best when it is coherent rather than crowded. Pick one or two trauma focused modalities and let mindfulness serve them. If EMDR therapy is the main vehicle, use mindfulness to stabilize, to support dual attention, and to close sessions. If cognitive work is central, use mindfulness to create space around thoughts. If you and your clinician consider ketamine therapy, fold mindfulness into preparation and integration, not as a standalone fix. If your relationship bears the brunt of symptoms, bring mindfulness into couples therapy so that both partners gain the same vocabulary and tools. Trauma narrows the world. Mindfulness, applied with clinical skill, widens it just enough to let therapy do its work. The change rarely arrives as a single breakthrough. It accumulates in quiet moments when you feel the familiar surge, recognize it, breathe, and choose what matters next. That is the power in this pairing, and it is available in short, doable steps that respect both the science and the person living the science. Canyon Passages Name: Canyon Passages Clinician: Kelly Chisholm, MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP; Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant Address: 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505 Address note: The official website also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507; please confirm the exact suite/location before visiting. Phone: (505) 303-0137 Website: https://www.canyonpassages.com/ Email: [email protected] Hours: Sunday: Closed Monday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Tuesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Wednesday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Thursday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Friday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Saturday: 9:00 AM – 5:00 PM Open-location code / plus code: M355+GV Santa Fe, New Mexico, USA Coordinates: 35.6587872, -105.9403342 Map/listing URL: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv Embed iframe: Socials: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages X: https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalBusiness", "@id": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/#localbusiness", "name": "Canyon Passages", "url": "https://www.canyonpassages.com/", "telephone": "+15053030137", "email": "[email protected]", "address": "@type": "PostalAddress", "streetAddress": "1800 Old Pecos Trail", "addressLocality": "Santa Fe", "addressRegion": "NM", "postalCode": "87505", "addressCountry": "US" , "areaServed": [ "@type": "City", "name": "Santa Fe" , "@type": "City", "name": "Sedona" , "@type": "City", "name": "Pagosa Springs" , "@type": "State", "name": "New Mexico" , "@type": "State", "name": "Arizona" , "@type": "State", "name": "Colorado" ], "openingHoursSpecification": [ "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Monday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Tuesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Wednesday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Thursday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Friday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" , "@type": "OpeningHoursSpecification", "dayOfWeek": "Saturday", "opens": "09:00", "closes": "17:00" ], "sameAs": [ "https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660", "https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/", "https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/", "https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages", "https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT", "https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages" ], "geo": "@type": "GeoCoordinates", "latitude": 35.6587872, "longitude": -105.9403342 , "hasMap": "https://www.google.com/maps/place/Canyon+Passages/@35.6587872,-105.9403342,703m/data=!3m2!1e3!4b1!4m6!3m5!1s0x87185147ef7e9491:0xb8037d6c82de503e!8m2!3d35.6587872!4d-105.9403342!16s%2Fg%2F11mrlk1njv" 🤖 Explore this content with AI: 💬 ChatGPT 🔍 Perplexity 🤖 Claude 🔮 Google AI Mode 🐦 Grok Canyon Passages provides EMDR-focused psychotherapy and depth-oriented trauma support for individuals and couples in Santa Fe, New Mexico. The practice is led by Kelly Chisholm and lists EMDR therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, couples therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, shared-trauma therapy, and spiritual growth integration among its offerings. The public listing places the practice at 1800 Old Pecos Trail in Santa Fe, while the official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45; clients should confirm the exact office location before visiting. Canyon Passages serves Santa Fe clients in person and also notes service connections for Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online clients seeking continuity of care. The practice may be relevant for adults and couples seeking trauma-informed care, intensive-style therapy, and structured preparation or integration support where clinically appropriate. Because ketamine- or psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy is specialized and regulated, prospective clients should ask directly about eligibility, clinical screening, legality, referral requirements, and fit before assuming the service is appropriate. Public listing hours show appointments Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM, with Sunday closed. To contact Canyon Passages, call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/. The public map listing for Canyon Passages can help clients verify the Santa Fe location and coordinates before planning an in-person appointment. Popular Questions About Canyon Passages What is Canyon Passages? Canyon Passages is a Santa Fe psychotherapy practice focused on EMDR therapy, trauma healing, couples work, and depth-oriented therapeutic support for individuals and couples. Who is the clinician at Canyon Passages? The official site lists Kelly Chisholm as the contact person and describes her credentials as MS, ACS, LPCC, NCC, CST, CCTP, and Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. Where is Canyon Passages located? The public listing address is 1800 Old Pecos Trail, Santa Fe, NM 87505. The official site also lists 1800 Calle Medico, Suite A1-45, Santa Fe, NM 87507, so clients should confirm the exact suite and arrival details before visiting. Does Canyon Passages offer EMDR therapy? Yes. EMDR therapy is listed as one of the core services on the official website, and the public listing also describes the practice as using EMDR. What services are listed by Canyon Passages? Listed services include EMDR therapy, ketamine therapy, psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy, couples therapy, trauma therapy, PTSD therapy, therapy for shared trauma, and spiritual growth and integration therapy. Does Canyon Passages work with couples? Yes. Couples therapy is listed on the official site, and the public listing describes retreats and intensives tailored to individuals and couples. Are online sessions available? Yes. The official site states that Canyon Passages offers in-person and online sessions, with a focus on Santa Fe, Sedona, Pagosa Springs, and online continuity of care. What are Canyon Passages’ listed hours? The public listing shows Monday through Saturday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM and Sunday closed. The listing also describes services as by appointment only, so clients should confirm availability directly. Is Canyon Passages an emergency mental health provider? No crisis or emergency service was verified for this dataset. Anyone in immediate danger or experiencing a mental health crisis should call 911, contact 988, or go to the nearest emergency room. How can I contact Canyon Passages? Call (505) 303-0137, email [email protected], visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/, or use the listed social profiles: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585098096660, https://www.instagram.com/canyonpassages/, https://www.linkedin.com/company/canyon-passages-therapy/, https://www.tiktok.com/@canyonpassages, https://x.com/CanyonPassagesT, and https://www.youtube.com/@CanyonPassages. Landmarks Near Santa Fe, NM Canyon Passages is listed near the Old Pecos Trail and Calle Medico medical corridor in Santa Fe. Clients near these landmarks can call (505) 303-0137 or visit https://www.canyonpassages.com/ to confirm appointment availability, exact suite details, and whether in-person or online care is appropriate. 1800 Old Pecos Trail — The public listing address area for Canyon Passages; clients should confirm the exact suite before visiting. Calle Medico — The official site references this nearby medical-office address format, making it a practical navigation point for appointments. CHRISTUS St. Vincent Regional Medical Center — A major nearby healthcare landmark in Santa Fe’s medical corridor. Old Pecos Trail — A key local route connected with the public listing address and useful for clients navigating the area. St. Michael’s Drive — A major Santa Fe corridor near medical, office, and residential areas; clients can use it to orient around the practice location. Cerrillos Road — One of Santa Fe’s main commercial routes and a practical reference point for clients traveling across the city. Santa Fe Railyard District — A well-known arts, dining, and community destination within the broader Santa Fe service area. Santa Fe Plaza — A central historic landmark for residents and visitors orienting around Santa Fe. Meow Wolf Santa Fe — A widely recognized Santa Fe venue and practical landmark for clients familiar with the city’s south and midtown areas. Museum Hill — A notable cultural district in Santa Fe and a useful reference point east of the central city area. Canyon Road — A well-known Santa Fe arts district and landmark for clients orienting around the city. Santa Fe Community College — A major educational landmark in the southern part of Santa Fe; clients can contact Canyon Passages to ask about online or in-person appointment options.